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Originally Posted by poincaraux
TomCollins- My deepest sympathies for your loss. I echo pokerwife's comments that everyone's recovery/reaction is different, so don't let people tell you how you should feel. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat.
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Originally Posted by pokerwifey
TomCollins- I am very sorry to hear about your (and your wife's) loss. My husband and I went thru this in January at 13 weeks and it was devastating. Every couple's recovery time is different, and (as a lurker who loves this thread) I hope to see you on the list again too...
Thanks for the support. "Fortunately" this was pretty early. We had a dreadful experience at the first doctors appointment, but had no signs of trouble. I had to travel for work, and was able to schedule it the week after that appointment. But since that appointment was not what was promised, my wife had to go to another appointment the next week while my trip was scheduled. I expected a call from her after the appointment, but she was in tears, and I was with a customer, and it just hit me. Being away from her during it was the toughest part. I made it home 2 days later, which helped a ton. I just hate that I was away for it. We went back in and got another ultrasound, still no heartbeat, and everything looked to be even less developed, so we knew it wasn't meant to be.
My wife is taking it pretty hard. It was rough for me for a little, but has gone down. It was only a month of expecting, so we hadn't built up as much anticipation. However, I've always kind of been pretty removed away from grief situations. My dad died almost 3 years ago, and it was initial shock, then it was all business for me. Being around other people suffering seems to be the hardest part.
Time to get trying again. It was only our first month of trying that we got her pregnant, so hopefully it won't take too long to plant another seed. We will only appreciate it even more when it happens.