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Originally Posted by jhall23
We are on the older side (wife will be 37 and I 36 when Kid is born) and had to deal with wife getting sick and going through chemo and radiation about 10 years ago and been told we probably had a very low chance we could have kids. We have been focusing on her health and planning on no kids. Wife decided to change careers to something she was more interested in and in the last few years we started talking about trying and finally deciding we were going to try. Wife was pretty certain it wouldn't happen and wanted to start early (she graduates in May) but I suggested just in case we wait so if it did happen easily she wouldn't be delivering in the middle of her last semester. Good thing we waited cause we got super lucky and got pregnant immediately after going of birth control.
Anyway we both feel very strongly that we would like one of us home for at least a few years since we are lucky enough financially to do so. Still a lot of things up in the air, but I would say it is most likely going to be me.
I'm in the same boat. We are both 37, and one of us could have stayed home, but we decided it would be better to have her spend 2 days at her on-campus day care a week and 3 days with her grandparents (retired). That would free up resources (meaning tuition) for her education. We expect that to be very expensive.
I've never gotten mad or upset with dealing with a screaming baby. Cora is a good baby but that doesn't mean she doesn't have her meltdowns or very difficult nights/days. I'm exposed to it, but I think if I had to do it full time I'd pull my hair out. Sometimes my wife needs a break and I try to ensure she gets them.
I will say that the baby is way more attached to my wife than me. Part of it might be because she breastfeeds, but when my wife picks her up she instantly calms down. It takes me considerably longer to calm the baby down. I asked a few friends and they all said that's normal. Sometimes when my wife walks out of the room the baby will just start crying and when she walks back in 30 seconds later she'll instantly stop crying. I'm ok with that.
Good luck man. Have hoopla kids videos on youtube ready at all times, because they can mesmerize children into silence, which sometimes you have to do.