Dave, I'm with you but it might be better to just let it go. Not trying to tell you how to handle this but since I seem to have started it I thought I would add my 2 cents. No harm done.

I agree with the spirit of this, tho concerning my own post, I am somewhat of a private person and posted thoughts about mum in the LC thread because I wanted it buried in a thread frequented by certain Lounge regs. That is not to say I don't appreciate posters like SuperUberBob replying and posting their own experiences with loss.

SUB,

Your story was touching. I'm sorry for your loss. Losing Mom brought together my family, too. I've always liked my sister and felt we got along well, but we've never spoken at length or had much of a relationship. After Mom died, I told her listen, I like you and I want us to have a relationship, whatever that means. Write, text, call, whatever.

I had the same thoughts about Mom as you about your father. As much as I cling to life now, I wonder if I would feel the same way if every moment was agony and suffering, and I knew that was the best I had to look forward to. It's perhaps better when a loved one goes quickly, both for them and for us.

Busto's,

No way. No way was my reply intended in any other way than to express a serious concern for what you expressed here concerning your mom. I only meant that I don't see it as "low content". I was not suggesting that it did not belong here. I guess I was trying to be nice. I hope I did not offend you. It was not my intention.

Marston,

Apologies, I must not have been clear. No offense taken at all. I was only attempting to explain why I chose to post my story here instead of a devoted thread. I took your post as you suggest you meant it and appreciated your concern.

Cool.

Eh, I think you're both dicks.

You are the first person, male or female that has ever thought kindly of my dick!

SUB,

Touching story, and thanks for your contribution. I'm not entirely sure why the Lounge seems to deal with death so well as a subject within this forum, but, even when sad, I value reading the end of life stories people feel comfortable sharing here. I send my condolences, and I appreciate your insight.

Katy,

I continue to disagree. Now, SUB can correct me, but I read some of the same other forums he posts in, and I haven't ever read that story from him, despite it being, as best I can tell, something touching that people would enjoy reading and something from a while ago. Many people feel uncomfortable highlighting their stories as a whole new thread, even if their stories are worthy. Heck, people with such reservations may have only the best stories to tell when they finally decide to share something. Someone sharing a moving story in the NC thread isn't lost content. It's found content. I'll recall you delighting in the tales of some of my romantic exploits prior to and now including the woman who's now my wife. No way would I ever start a thread with any of those stories, even if I spent 1000 or more words writing them. I might have even been insulted if a mod made them a separate thread. I am thankful that I have no story to tell as tragic as many that have been posted in this forum, but if I were stricken with one, I might look first to the current NC thread as a venue to share it. Sometimes its nice to have a low-pressure, no-spotlight area to talk, even if the subject is deathly serious.

Mr. W,

IMO I believe that Katy was just emphasizing that stories like those recently told here are important. That somehow they get lost in a thread deemed LC. A thread in which anything goes. Maybe not. It seems that they reached the people the OP's wanted to reach so I guess everything is not just black and white when it comes to where to put things.

Good point.

One thing I like about you, Wook, is that you are always respectful and thoughtful when disagreeing with me. I have always liked that about you.


Another good point. We certainly do not want to piss people off by moving their posts against their will. I recall a thread a couple years back that pissed off Dominic because it moved his post to the top and made it look like he had started a controversial topic. Haha. He said something like – “I didn’t even start this thread!” which is kind of funny if you think about it

My main point is that before the evolution of the LC threads, people who felt like sharing or discussing a topic would create new threads for that purpose. I just worry that the LC threads detract from this. Obviously they promote a closeness among a small group of people, which is nice, but in my opinion they don't exactly make the forum grow and blossom. That's just my opinion and I'm always willing to listen to other opinions. I just think LC threads are kind of the opposite of what forums should be about. But hey, that's just me. If I were to go into another forum and see this I would be a little turned off. However, I’m willing to admit that I am out of touch. Now I'll shut up and get back to posting in the LC thread

What do you guys think about get well cards and birthday cards for coworkers? Are they a pain in the ass or what? I can never think of anything to write on the card that doesn't sound forced, and I don't typically have money in my purse for the donation.

One of my friends at work told me something last night that just cracked me up. I'm still laughing about it today. She just returned from work after an extended sick leave for almost 2 months. We were sitting around at the end of shift last night. I told her it was great to have her back and that we had missed her. She told me that she was sort of glad to be back and sort of not. That there are people at work who don't like her, as evidenced by the fact that she received a get well card while she was in the hospital which had only a few signatures on it and... $1 in it. Yeah, 1 friggin dollar ! hahahaha Now who is the joker who thought that through? I mean how insulting to open up a card and find $1. Why didn't they just take out the dollar and send it with just the card? I think I would have gone around the office again and said "yo, people, can you give a little love here? There's been a donation of only $1. Can we get serious?" Bunch of cheap asses.

If you're sick, do you want your coworkers to send you a get well card with $1 in it?

Eh, I'll take a free buck

$1 will still get you a cup'a joe at the 7/11.

Since when do get well cards have $$$ in them?
Is that standard? Never heard of such a thing.

Eh, eh!

A Mrs. Rhymes tale:

Went to the gym yesterday with Mrs. Rhymes. They make us scan keycards when we come in. So the guy at the desk scans Mrs. Rhymes's card, looking at her and smiling the entire time. I'm right behind her and hand him my keycard. He takes my card and scans it but doesn't look at me once. Keeps looking at Mrs. Rhymes as she walks away, that big goofy grin still on his face.

Fast-forward five minutes, I go back outside to get my water bottle from my car. On the way back in, the same bro runs after me so that I can get him to scan my card. I told him, "You already scanned my card a few minutes ago. I just went out to my car." I refrained from adding, "The only reason you don't remember me is because you were staring at my wife when I came in the first time."

Lol....nice

That's not even thinly veiled

Only if you live in the Deep South.

So what's the problem? Staring or forgetting you?

Hmmm. Tough to decide which was the more serious offense

I don't care if he forgets me. Most of the employees are super-bro personal trainers.

As far as the other, one can hardly blame him for staring, but to do so openly, in front of the man she entered the gym with?

Maybe he thought or was hoping that you were her father or grand father for that matter. Who knows? Maybe you aren't as pretty as I think you are. Or maybe you are not noticeable or.... See there could be a host of honest reason. Of course, most likely, he was just a d****bag.

Marston,

DB knows what it's like when I look in the mirror.

Hmmm... Mustabeen nudda reason...( great retort btw, lol)

I appreciate that certain topics stay in the LC thread.

Speaking of which, the ex gf's change of venue motions keep getting delayed. Currently set for next Friday, but I won't be surprised when they move it out til May or June. It seems like there is no end, but it has only been a little over 2 years.