I have a friend who I'll call Gladys who is married to Clyde. One night on his way home from work Clyde stopped at a female coworker's house and "had a little fun" (to be SFW).

A couple weeks later my wife wanted to have the family over for dinner. I said, "Clyde is not welcome in my house, he's a cheating scumbag." She said, "You're a hypocrite - Cletus cheated on HIS wife and you treat him like he's your best friend."

Cletus, while married, met, fell for and eventually moved in with another woman, THEN divorced his wife and married the new woman. They've now been together 15 years and have 2 kids.

I have to admit, it nonetheless made me think.

I welcome meaningful conversation about the subject.

Cheat on your wife and call her a hypocrite when she doesn't invite you over for dinner.

You both are nits. People’s love lives and morality in regards to relationships is based upon a lifetime of experience and often trauma, you shouldn’t apply your own standards to theirs.

Does Gladys know?

Yes. She knows. All I know is she was very hurt by it but they're still together. I didn't dig for any further details.

When they're both aware of it, then I stay out of it. I figure their lives are hard enough right now that I don't want to add fuel to the fire. Plus, there are two sides to everything, and even if I knew everything it wouldn't necessarily mean that I understood it.

You do have the right to ask that Clyde not come to your house, as with anybody, you don't have to associate with them in your own home.

But if your friend Gladys is still with him, do you invite someone who puts up with a cheat?

Ultimately, its none of your business what their relationship is like, they are grown consenting adults.

But you don't have to have them in your home or as friends.

You better get on the same page as your wife tho, or your pipe game better be on point, or you're going to have problems.

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