Oh baby! Oh Baby!

I've broke up with my gf (x gf now) about a month ago. I cannot ****ing get over. I thought things would be better if I do not see her, hang with friends, play some pokers. However, this was not the case. I miss her a lot. I do not know how to stop thinking about her. I do not know what to do about this. Even though we've only dated for a little over a month I got too attached to her. How can I FIX my life? I want to be happy again and just grind at pokers. Please help.

If you guys need any background information about me or her or whatever, just ask.

just send her a link the that post and she will be back in no time.

POTAP, that is neither weird/stupid/disgusting.

But, I wish you luck.

Women are the rake.

why did you break up?

She broke up with me because she felt that she had stronger feelings for ex bf even though they've dated for more than 6 years compared to my 1 month....
They broke up now after many fights and stuff and the fact that the guy thinks she cheated on him (she did not). He think she cheated on him with me even though they were not dating. Yesterday he forced her to drive like 6 hours to CT because he went to CT and said that he was going to kill himself. They had a big fight and she basically yelled at him and did not want anything to do with him. At least that is what she told me.

Do other things you enjoy, actively begin dating others.

hmmm . . . well, I've been in the sort of relationship your ex (iguess) is in. Where the relationship is really crappy, but you're stuck in that cycle. Tbh, it's really hard to break (ldo). Chances are as long as you stay strong and supportive and try to be there for her, if she still likes you at all, she'll come around. For a lot of people in these types of relationships they tend to be in them because they have a hard time being alone/not in a relationship. Often, the way people get out of these relationships is that it either becomes very dangerous or one of the dependents finds someone else (like you).

I'm sure someone hear has better advice, but what I can say is maube you want to
1. Be there for her
2. Keep living your own life (spend time with your friends and family and do things you enjoy.)

Yeah. That's all. I tried.

It sounds like you're still talking to her and she's still using you as an emotional crutch. It's either all or nothing, imo and you need to break off communication for a certain period of time. Having her in your life right now will just make it harder.

I do talk to her, yes. I will try not speaking or communicating with her for the next two weeks. I just hope that I do not see her in college.... Sucks going to same college especially when we have a break at the same time.

If you do, give her the head nod and say hi and keep going. She'll probably get really upset and mad that you're not talking to her, but it's the way it has to be.

That is good advice and I thought about that, but i wouldn't want to drive her into staying with the other guy either. Especially since she probably has some emotional issues (even if they are just from being in cyclic relationship).

I should practically ignore her?? What if she calls me or texts me?? This sounds wrong to me.

Be nice be communicative don't go out of your way
say hi
ask how she is
don't go visit

I'm not saying he can't "be there for her" but that it's not fair to either party to stay in that sort of codependency, especially not for her. She left him to go back to the guy she had previously been broken up with, which in and of itself is a silly move (I'm not a big fan of moving backwards, fwiw). And now she's relying on him for her support in dealing with the bat**** crazy boy, whom she's probably with because she loves the drama. It all feeds into her ego and maybe after a break from being a part of that cycle 1) she'll see what she was doing and 2) he can see things for what they really are. I'm just hoping the loss of the security of the one guy will make her realize the destructive path she's on.

Oh and all of this is based on my very minimal knowledge of these people so I could very easily be wrong. Clearly.

You could always try being honest with her. That a friendship with her right now is really hurting you and that you're there for her, but that it isn't fair to you. And it's not. Honestly, being communicative with her over how you're feeling will be the best thing you could possibly do.
This. don't get into deep conversations with her about her feelings and stuff.

She is very upset that she hurt two guys, she said this countless times, this is why she does not know what to do.

And that's fair, that's her way of alleviating her guilt. It is hard to hurt people and no doubt in that situation you're going to. At the same time though, she can't expect you to be there for her in the same capacity as you were before. Not only is it not fair to you, it's not fair to the man she's with now and will only cause problems in their (already faulty) relationship. From the little bit I read, seems like he's the jealous type and that if he found out she was telling you intimate details about their ongoing issues it would be cause for more drama. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

POTAP sounds like you might have been a rebound relationship for her, if she was with the ex for 6 years she probably hasn't fully closed that part of her life yet and until she does it will never work going forward with you. You need walk away from this relationship until she is completely over the ex, imo. Sorry and GL

you are a genius sir. He is extremely jealous. Couple days ago she told her that she had sex with me even though she dated me for a month and he went ****ing berserk. Cursed her out and dumped her, then he tried to kill himself (bs) yesterday. They had a huge fight in which she told him that she will never be with him because it will not work etc.

Why do you attract girls who are attracted to crazy people?

Oh, that's why.

I'm sorry, but the more you talk about her the more she sounds like a drama queen.

If she asks you what to do, tell her.

"Be with me. You know what he is like. It's time to let it go and (two options) 1. give someone else the chance to love you or 2. try to love someone else."

If she isn't willing to let him go then you need to let it go.

I will leave her alone for two weeks, hopefully I will understand more the next time we talk to each other.

just let her know your feelings about her but your not down with a girl that confused about what she wants, RUN!!! trust me

I did tell her this yesterday. I am going to leave her alone for two weeks, hopefully things will get better.