Originally Posted by 27offsuit

Will MissT ever post here again?

Bodog
Yes +100
No -110

Originally Posted by DannyOcean_

At this point I would pay T to post.

Originally Posted by haggy

this thread has taken a turn for the even better

Originally Posted by MissT74-X-Husband

Today I consulted my good friend Google to catch up on what Tanya's been up to.

Google led me here.

I am Tanya's ex-husband, and since I am a major player in this thread, I thought I'd share my side of the story.

I'll be the first to admit that I've put Tanya, my family and close friends through the ringer. For that I truly apologize. That wasn't my intention.

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Here's my side of the story...

AIDS:

- My first wife did have AIDs. But she didn't die from it. It was cancer that got her.

- It was my major bad that I didn't mention AIDs when I told Tanya about the cancer ... she had a right to know.

- After my first wife passed away, I got checked for HIV every six months for 2 & a half years. Every time I went in for the test results I was on pins and needles... those were some of the most terrifying times of my life.

My doctor finally told me that unless I had unprotected sex with someone else (or exposed myself in some other way), I didn't have to continue getting tested. He said that if I didn't test positive after such a long period that I was HIV negative.

In this thread, Tanya mentioned that I REFUSED to be checked. That implies that she or someone else asked me to get checked.

Tanya never requested this, nor did anyone else. And, since I am certain I don't have AIDS (it's now been more than 13 years since my first wife passed and 11 years since my doc cleared me) I have no need or reason to be checked.

- I hate to question Tanya's veracity, but Tanya became aware that my first wife had AIDs within the first year of our marriage. This occurred when my daughter was visiting us. My daughter mentioned this in passing while she and Tanya were in the car alone together.

In addition, when Tanya told me she wanted to leave me, she cited this critical omission as a primary reason for her decision. I don't blame her. Again, she deserved to know before we were married.

On anther note, I find it odd that Tanya waited until after our divorce to get tested, since she knew about this four years earlier. And despite this knowledge, Tanya continued to have unprotected sex with me.

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Bipolar

Tanya was completely aware of my bipolar diagnosis BEFORE we married. As Tanya said in this thread, she knew me for 10 years and during that time I showed NO symptoms of being bipolar.

The first time I struggled with this was when my mother died a horrible death from cancer, the second when I found out about my first wife's diagnosis of AIDs. The third time this happened was when Tanya left me.

After the initial shock of these events passed through my psyche, I returned to a normal and productive life in a relatively short period.

When T & I broke up though, I lost it and it took me much longer to get back to life again. It wasn't so much losing Tanya that got to me (although initially it was). What really did me in was that the ideal of marriage broken for me.

Anyway, when I was hospitalized after my desert debacle, the doctors did not diagnose me as bipolar. They diagnosed me as having "an unspecified, stress related symptomology". Whatever the F that means.

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Suicide by Cop

I did not live in the desert for three weeks. I was out there for three days, stranded because my car battery died.

I couldn't get a cell phone signal (although I tried several times), and after over two days without water, I decided to try one more time. I stumbled around, searching for a signal and finally (to my great relief) found one.

By that time I was delirious/delusional and barely able to think, yet somehow I communicated my location accurately enough so that a DPS office was able to find me.

When the officer arrived, he was toting a water bottle that I felt sure was for me. I was DESPERATE for water. When I asked him for some, he told me the bottle he had was his personal water, and I'd get my own when another officer arrived.

Please remember that I was delirious and ALL I could think of was one little drop of water. I said to the officer "just a drop man, that's all I want". Again, he told me I'd have to wait.

When he turned his back to return to his squad car, I did a VERY stupid thing. I grabbed my shotgun (btw, it wasn't sawed-off - it was a shotgun with a pistol grip) and pointed it at myself.

When the officer finally realized what I was doing, he immediately drew his weapon. I told him over and over that if he'd just let me drink from his water bottle, I'd put the shotgun down.

We had a stand-off for about 10 minutes. Me begging for water and him saying that I'd have to wait for it. Finally another officer showed up and I had two officers were holding guns on me.

AT NO TIME did I point my weapon at them.

Think about it, what is an officer trained to do when they even THINK a weapon has been drawn on them? They shoot to kill. Period.

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The Present:

So what's happening with me now?

First of all, I acknowledge that I've put many of those who care the most about me through a ration of sh*t. If any of you end up reading this - I apologize from the bottom of my heart.

Somehow, despite my abrupt departures from life, I've been able to retain many of my clients. They've told me it's because of the friendship we've developed over the years and because of the quality of my work. They could have easily gone somewhere else ... thank God they didn't.

I've also got a few new clients, one of which is a major player in their industry. It's the biggest project I've tackled since before Tanya and I split, and I'm looking forward to it.

I've reunited with some of my closest friends, all of whom seem genuinely happy that I'm once again going forward with my life.

I'm living in a great little place, secluded, private, two bedrooms, an office, a wonderful back yard teeming with birds and wildlife of all kinds. And... best of all ... a private Jacuzzi.

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Thoughts About Tanya:

I'm deeply disappointed that Tanya has chosen to air our dirty laundry to the world. She has been doing this for years and it's always bugged me.

Tanya has some good reasons to be pissed off at me... but she has stretched the truth a few times in this thread.

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That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Originally Posted by getterdone36

confirmed that is her husband, I was reading her blog and she had a link to her myspace, her husband was on her friends list and I sent him a quick message asking him if he did indeed write post #202 and he confirmed it was him

Originally Posted by adanthar

if I were evil I would sticky this thread for the next month or so

but I'm not, so I'll just say 'damn' and edit the title