It's really not my intention to sound like a condensing dick when asking this next question, but I can't think of a better way to ask it, so sorry.
Have you ever consider that you aren't really any wiser from the experience and that this "I was so young and naive back then" bit is just a cop out?
Let me clarify: I've got female friends who play a game and it sounds similar to one you are playing ITT. Here's how the game works: If you are in a long term relationship with a guy, it's "love." The second it ends, "Nope. I was young and naive when I said that. It wasn't really love. It was just "lust." Man, it's awesome I have such a better perspective on things now."
Isn't is possible that you're (possibly subconsciously) discounting the feelings you used to feel now retroactively? I mean, you got married. Isn't it possible that it's easier to blame everything on being young and naive rather than admit that you felt just about as strongly as you could possibly ever feel for another person and then it feel apart?
I don't get this...I went to a wedding on May 29th this year and I just heard that the marriage is in trouble. Both people are 23. Obviously the problems did not start after May 29th but what makes people go through with a wedding that they know is wrong at the time?
Saying you made a big mistake is not really an answer. Why didn't you back out? Did you not have the courage to back out or say no?
is this a trend? will you have a series of failed marriages?
as you throw your focus behind your career, do you think this will lead to other relationships which will grow around your chosen field?
does it carry any weight in your overall life win/fail assessment?
You turn 19 and get married.
Get divorced at 23.
Did you go to college? How was it being married and in college (if you did go to college)?
When did Ryan Beal come into the picture? I thought you were with him for about a year. So that would mean you just broke up with him recently, which did not happen afaik.
Ever cheat on your husband? Did he cheat on you that you know of?
Did you live in a state where everything is split 50/50 or was it an equitable distribution state?
What did you get in the divorce? Anything real sweet?
Number one thing that you guys fought about in the marriage?
Why get married so young? Did you guys date in high school or something? How big was your high school? I'm really bored, am I boring you with these questions? What did you guys do for money if you were that young? How long did you live together before you got married. How many boyfriends prior to this guy did you have? What makes Low Key so much better than this guy?
Snoop, when you get married that young and it fails, it's not a big deal at all. In a few years, you'll look back on it and just shake your head and wonder what in the heck you were thinking - if you don't already.
Now, I was 46 and got married to a woman who was so completely wrong for me that it was silly. And 4 months later we got it annulled.