Prediction:

Atak, congrats!

Boston area eh? Lets talk!

i do and im grateful that im safe

That can't happen until Christmas, because he leaves tomorrow at 3, and our custody agreement isn't all that forgiving (nor is his mother). But then, certainly.

He's good about the [she needs a POG name] thing, very good. It seems he may actually not get along great with daughter (older one is old enough it doesn't matter) , but we'll see. So far his treatment of the whole matter has been great.

After the boat trip, I "apologized" to him for some PDA as a way of initiating conversation. He said no big deal, then asked "So you really like her a lot, huh?" While smirking.

So I have reasons to believe that the big picture is fine. The details... They're teenagers. They'll be pains in the ass some of the time. They'll also be fine.

We certainly will. I'm happy to be "here" (not here yet), and I'm sure we'll get to hang out more.

why do you suspect he may not get along with the daughter?

this

Really happy to hear you found a soul-mate, Atak.

Congratulations

They are teenagers

dugh!

He is fairly awkward with most people on first meeting, and never gets on well with many — he is not I would call socially adept. She, on the other hand, I gather is quite gregarious — or certainly it seemed so on the phone, as she conversed reasonably comfortably with a man she's never met whom she's been told is stealing her mother away, sort of. So I guess it adds up to me recognizing the possibility that Pup will be a bit intimidated or overwhelmed.

, really.

For as many alarm bells that are going crazy in my head right now I hope (and pray ) for nothing but success in your new relationship.

If I was you, I would still try to couch some rationality into your thoughts and relationship decisions. e.g. don't sign any long-term leases/buy expensive things together at this time.

And give yourself some mental outs if things just don't mesh together as the relationship matures.

More on this: I've been crazy in love before this too, once, almost two decades ago. Things did not work out, and in fact never progressed to, well, anything. But a "relationship" that never moved beyond words and glances affected me for many years. And most of that effect was the pain at having lost it, but it was worth enduring that for also having felt it.

So yes, mets, you are right. Even if I knew this would end badly, I would and in fact would have to do it.

And the thing is: it won't. I'm right. She's right.


[Yeah, yeah, I'm sure there's an o/u pool on how long it lasts, already on skype chat or whatever. I promise you: smart money is on the over. Regardless the line.]

How much $ does one make as a yoga instructor?

When I do make big decisions (most pf my recent life is ruled by an inability to do it at all), it tends to be fast. Not like THIS, but yes, rapid and impulsive.

Yes, I get the implications of that.

I will point out that many of those impulsive decisions have worked out quite well. Though, OK, not all of them.

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Re Pup, see above. He's really being incredibly cool about everything — this, plus leaving for a "home" he loathes in just a few hours. He's dealing with that, but still able to have an almost completely adult conversation with me about the [person] thing. My boy is so cool these days.

who the [censored] cares!?



happy for you atak, congrats!

I don't know. I know that she travels the world, apparently by working some yoga classes to pay for the flights and such, then living cheaply for a while until she needs to do more yoga. But I also know she owns multiple properties in valuable areas of Massachusetts, including the house where she'll have me live until daughter accepts me completely (though maybe that won't be long). That she can hang onto 13 acres of prime real estate, and plan to donate most of it rather than allow it to be sold and subdivided, suggests that she is doing well enough, though I don't know what came from the Wall Street days, and what from husband.

But as HS implied, it has its benefits as well. She is in amazing condition, and has done extensive study of many forms of yoga, including tantra... (and by that I mean real tantra, not the euphemism for a massage with extras)

I know if I try to thank everyone individually for the well wishes, I'll miss somebody, but I appreciate them all.

Watch this space for updates...

Congratulations, atak. All the best.

So at what exact point did you "know"? Was it the first e-mail, or when she stepped out of the car that first time? Was it on the boat? I want more romantic stories plssss, I could read these all day

Fantastic news atak!!! A lot of the posts in here have made me smile, you're so adorable

Are there different levels of love? (I'm not talking about family vs women (or men if you're a woman or gos))

This also makes me wonder: How many times have people itt actually been in love?

I'm stoked for you Atak. I hope you two find true happiness

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