omg no.

no no no no no no no no no no no no no.

10

It's just one number. Go out and get 10 more and report back imo.

If she cares - at all - what day you call her, you don't want anything to do with her. Do you feel like talking to her tonight? Like you can have a good, interesting conversation and then ask her out? Call. No? Don't.

Probably the only exception to this rule is calling on V Day, just because girls are weird about it. Calling her Friday is no big deal, just like calling her today isn't a big deal. Sunday is almost a week, probably pushing in to ass territory.

Did you see that futurama where Zoidberg went back to his home planet for mating season?

Look, the point is kyro is excited. He came in and dug up this old thread and bumped it.

It took him long enough to get the number as it is. Putting off calling her gives the opportunity for inertia to set in. The longer he builds it up to himself, the bigger deal it is.

K,

The point is not that she is likely to freak out if you don't immediately call her. The point is that there is (contrary to masculine mythology) no reason to wait. Waiting will not increase her interest in you in the slightest. The only thing it MAY do is give her time to get less excited. The one who is likely to be the most impacted is you. The best time to call is while you are still on the rush of confidence that comes with her giving you the number.

He who hesitates, etc etc.

Also, it IS more polite to call within a couple of days of taking a number. That can make me high maintenance or whatever, I really don't care. I certainly wouldn't get mad or rule a guy out because of it, but it's just more polite.

TY to HBE. I almost followed up with a lynch kyrosmother but didn't want to oversell it.

rush of confidence? inertia? its just a fone number....

i know amp was kidding, but his advice is actually not bad.

I was not kidding. Putting this kind of emotion into one phone number is a bit ridiculous.

Kyro,

I am with VR on this one. Go for it. Why the hell not?

By the way, VR, can I have your number

For all you single guys, take note... There's some mighty fine advice in this post.

BTW, this is just a feeling but I bet when Mets gets a girls number, he calling her to set up a date on his subway ride home...

imo when a girl gives you her number, only one night of sleep needs to pass before its ok to call. so if she gives her # on friday night, saturday is a good day to call. this is not too early. the only kind of girl i know who complains about someone calling too early is a total self-centered bitch- "omg is this freak obsessed with me?" what you need to be worried about is calling too late. women dont get intrigued by waiting for the guy to call. it doesnt make you look more mysterious or unavailable, it makes you seem annoying and uninterested. :P

and kyro passed up a golden opportunity today if he didnt call, bc everyone knows its basically a slam dunk to plan a casual date with someone for valentines day. the romance is practically done for you, so even if you dont do anything serious, you get the credit. LDO. if shes single, shes probably just bumming around tomorrow.. shoulda found out if shes free

now he'll have to wait til friday afternoon. (trust me)

and after a week has passed, i pretend to not remember who he is when he calls. or act like i have NO IDEA why he is calling.

him: heeeey! how ya doin?
me: who is this??
him: oh, its brad
me: brad...?
him: yeah brad pitt.
me: .......
him: you know.. i met you last wednesday bowling.. you said i was cute...
me: OH yeeaah, brad..... ok.........
him: um... so... i thought id give you call, you gave me your number
me: riiight..
him: so what are you up to?
me: nothin.
him: you wanna grab a drink or something?
me: ummm.. i cant really. im still really worn out from that bowling. i think i'll pass..
him: um...... o. k.?
me: ok, cool. well! it was good talkin to ya again, brad. thanks for calling..
him: ...um....ssure... b<CLICK>

me: lololol dickhead

This would be a standard PUA response, except in PUA they say to go bang 10 other women. We'll start with getting 10 other phone numbers though.

Anyhow, I think this particular time span is awkward because it's vday tomorrow and what not. That's why I say Sunday...let all the vday and wknd festivities die down, and then plan something for the next week. But I mean, it's really not a huge deal. Just don't put it off and then be like "oh crap, I waited too long, now I can't call her cause she'll think I'm weird"

I once really cared about this and tried to follow these rules.. after getting an awesome totally out of my league girls number on a Saturday.. I waited until like Thursday and she met some other dude in the downtime and they hit it off great and I was outta the picture.

I don't buy into the wait x days.. just that certain days are no good.. I wouldn't call on a Sat or holiday, really.

But if I did call on a Friday or Saturday I would make sure I already had plans and was setting up plans with her on like Tuesday or Wednesday.

what women want imo

jeysus, I'm glad we use the old fashioned way in the uk of getting drunk, having sex, and then worrying about names and numbers later. This dating crap sounds complex.

Also: enter my sheep, chicks love it.

missing out imo

dating is awesome

I'm a fan of the UK style of things.

You do realize this is the first number I've gotten from a girl in over a year, right?

Anyways, this is all kinda silly. I'm just going to go about my business and if it doesn't work out because I didn't call her yesterday as opposed to today (seriously, I don't see the big deal in calling on Valentine's Day. I actually joked to her on Tuesday that me asking her out had nothing to do with Valentine's Day which I had alluded to "disliking" earlier that night), then such is life.

I haven't had much self-esteem when it comes to women ever since Erin stabbed my soul, and I'm about as pessimistic with regards to womens' interest in me as possible. But I really got the feeling Tuesday night that she's very interested in me, and possibly been waiting for me to ask her for some time now. I didn't NOT call her yesterday because I was scared, just because I feel weird calling somebody the day after I get their number. But I'll probably call tonight just to say hi and maybe set something up soon.

bulletproof monk is right imo. make plans with other people to go hang out / drink / whatever, then like 30 min before you have to leave call her and mention that you are going out to XXX bar

the important thing is to not get worked up this (traz and amplify are right as well), im not going to advocate kyro go get 10 other numbers (hes gotta be pretty tired as it is) but really more important than anything else is not getting worked over it. ITS JUST A PHONE NUMBER. so planning "im gonna wait 3 days then call" is getting worked up over it... vr is right in the sense that 1 day vs. 3 days doesn't matter. jennfox is also right when she said that one day of sleep doesn't matter and waiting a week is ******ed.

so yeah, the only person who's not right here is kyro for making such a big deal over one phone number. get over it.

How many have you asked?

Wow. This is one of the douchiest things you've ever said.