(Posting from a male's perspective.)
Took me a second to realize this was a female thread - I had opened up about 10 interesting threads at the same time, and lost track after posting on a few.
Imagine how the following sounds when you completely think it was a guy posting lol
- "I was starting my session, got my chips and walked up to the table. The guy next to me says, "Turn around so we can see your ass." Then a couple others join in, "Yeah, turn around."
First off, apologies for what was said to you. A lot of guys do not have a filter, ESPECIALLY
at a poker table. We will say things sometimes to sound cool, mouth off, bust another guy's balls, etc. It's like a big 'boys club' and we're just screwing around playing some cards. It's usually 100% in good fun, though it can get a bit rough and can cross a line or two. Throw alcohol into the mix, and it can get pretty crazy.
This is not an excuse. But, you need to know what to expect when you sit down. Sometimes you'll have a nice quiet table, other times a bunch of loud LOUD people. And everything in-between.
Generally, everyone's out to have a good time. Live poker is inherently social. Be prepared for the worst going in though - you're playing with a bunch of loud, mouthy, sometimes drunk, dirty guys. The "If the seven of diamonds comes, I totally rape you" comment was not directed literally at you - that guy has no idea about you. He was just trying to sound like a badass/cool/colorful, whatever you want to call it. Again, this is not an excuse, but you need to know what to expect at a poker table.
I think your solution was fine, take a table change if things get bad. But hotjenny's is usually a lot better - if you can fire back with a funny/sarcastic comment, it will do wonders. You'll be 'one of the boys.' Just don't make it personal, relax and try to have fun with it.
It's all in how you handle it. Just my 2 cents.