Over a month later, the coming out continues (for reference:
earlier coming out post from this thread).
I was out at dinner tonight with some friends/coworkers and some got onto talking about me being single. They were well-intentioned, wanting me to find someone so I'd be happy. But after a while, I guess my deflecting answers could have raised a red flag.
Female friend 1: "Do you even want a girl?"
Me: "No. I'm happy as I am"
Female friend 2: "Guys, we're getting ahead of ourselves. What are you looking for? Is it a girl, is it a guy?"
Me: hesitates, "It's a guy."
I don't know what answer she expected from that. I had no prior reasons to believe she thought I was gay. I sorta like the direct question though as it forced the issue without anymore secrets or games. On the other hand, she later apologized for putting me on the spot in front of everyone.
I wasn't expecting this to happen tonight or this way or to these particular people, but you can't control everything in life. Also, I expect some of these people to talk, so I can just assume I'm already out to our group of mutual friends/coworkers...? Falling down the rabbit hole already. Next step is to eventually be peer pressured into making an online dating account.