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Originally Posted by Pleeeasefold
I don't tell my gf I play poker because she always freakes out when she knows I'm playing, if she knows then I don't get "any" for the next 48 hrs, I even bought home 8k in cash that I won on a live game, and she still freaked, the best poker is after 7pm until morning, it's her quality time with me. I always have to keep lying to her that I'm going to hang out with friends, so the question is, should I choose poker ? Or the gf? Anyone else have this problem?
Ask her why she doesn't want you to play poker. It sounds like you might not totally understand the fundamental issue here.
For instance, if she's worried about the money, then you need to produce some evidence of your edge. Prove to her that you're a winner.
My guess is that she's actually more concerned that you're being a degenerate / hanging out with degens / doing casino "stuff" / banging hookers / etc. She probably wants you to spend more quality time with her. You're playing poker at 3:00 AM, what do you expect her to think? Start playing during the daytime hours. You won't win as much, but you'll still get your poker fix, and you'll keep her happy.
Advice: Use some of your poker money to buy her something nice. Tell her that she's your "partner", and you'll be sharing your winnings with her (even though she's obviously not investing any $).
My grandfather used to give half of his poker winnings to my grandmother every year. Sometimes he would buy her an expensive watch, or something else that old ladies like.
I've taken a similar approach with my own relationship. Once my girlfriend realized that me playing poker = $$$ = nice dinners and presents, she started
encouraging me to play.