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Originally Posted by Ryanb9
But then after a week or two you gotta tell her you were just ****ing with her b/c you caught her doing something she shouldn't have been doing.
I don't think this is true anymore. Idk why I wrote it. Honestly when I read it I said out loud "I didn't write that"
Its very hard to test if someone is lying to you.
Its almost impossible.
I did it with my ex but it was disastrous to our relationship.
I asked her if she reads my journals b/c i asked her not to, she said no, but I got a feeling she was, so I took a picture of my journal before I went to band practice and another picture when I got home and they weren't the same.
I didn't tell her about the pictures.
I asked her if she read it, she said no
I asked her if she moved it, she said no
I asked her if she was lying to me, she said no
Then she got aggressive at me, she got upset, and started making me feel like I was the one doing something wrong.
She started victim blaming/shaming me.
I believed her for a moment, then I said "no, reality is reality, and humans will deceive you"
After 5 or 10 minutes of her crying and yelling and doing everything a human knows how to do as if they are going to be killed, and they have to put on a performance to save their life, thats what she did.
After 5 or 10 minutes of that, I told her "look, as much as you know you didn't go thru my journal, that's how much I'm breaking up with you"
And then she admitted to me that she did.
But by that point, I cant tell if she is admitting it b/c she did it, or if she is admitting it b/c I just said I would break up with her if she didn't tell me she did it.
So it was a huge brain **** and the cops got called and I ended up in a mental hospital.
I tried to physically push her out of my house because she kept messing with my mind.
She broke me by lying to me and then was using all sorts of tactics on me.
She started throwing her stuff, breaking her pottery, arguing with me, screaming at me, crying, trying to convince me I was wrong.
So I said "okay, let me go thru your phone then" and she said "okay, and opened up her messages" and I closed her messages, and said "no, I'ma start a the first app you got and go to the last one, and it will probably take 4 hours" and she started screaming and grabbed her phone back.
That, not before, was when I finally knew I was being ****ed with.
You would think that the pictures would be enough, right?
Love makes you do stupid things.
You cant know you're being deceived until someone admits it to you.
Unless you are willing to go thru huge lengths and work with imperfect data and are willing to trust yourself above all others around you and do extreme things to find out based on following your feelings that your being deceived, but why would you want someone to do that? Just admit what you did.
Last edited by Ryanb9; 01-19-2023 at 10:53 AM.