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Originally Posted by VeeDDzz`
For the longest time I've thought that drinking in social situations was a kind of coping mechanism for some social anxiety I was not entirely aware of. Having now thoroughly tested this hypothesis I've come to learn that I was wrong. I have learnt that, all too often, people are fairly boring and one-dimensional; or at least too boring for me. Alcohol can make anyone interesting; allowing for connection to develop. I seek to connect, so I drink.
I think both are often true.
I believe the real problem is caring. That is, worrying about whether you are interesting or not to others. I don't think one could be socially anxious unless they cared about this.
I'm reminded of the scene from Pulp Fiction where Uma Thurman's character talks about having a comfortable silence. John Travolta is only there because he hadn't a choice and couldn't care less of the impression he is giving. Uma's character asks why do people feel it's necessary to constantly yap to feel comfortable. I've had those only to get asked why I am quiet.
In large groups, having dinner sober. It's useful to have other wise useless knowledge about things such as current events or facts about movies, often.
Jordan Peterson gives good tips at times that stick in me head. He says on the subject of social anxiety in a group: never address the crowd. It doesn't work. One to one's only. He's right.
Last edited by MacOneDouble; 03-26-2019 at 01:37 PM.