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Originally Posted by digables
I didn't used to think this way, but after a lot of weddings in the last 5 years, I think it's completely fine to decline invitations to weddings.
It's important to try to go, and definitely have to go for the great friends, but a lot of people (especially in the South) get really loose with the invites. Weddings often involve some amount of travel, hotel, gift, it adds up crazy fast. And some people just get big budgets from their parents and try to rack up as many gifts as possible.
So declining invites is fine. Even for no reason other than you don't want to go. Not responding at all though makes you an *******
In my limited direct exposure and experience with friends, but not people I am really close to I've seen the opposite with people from the South. Smaller weddings and tighter invite lists to keep costs down seem rampant and even at times overkill. When I hear of weddings elsewhere they always seem to be 200+ person events. The four southern weddings I have been to were all under 100 people and there were two more that my gf didn't even get a +1 to (one of which she was in) because they were trying to keep it small to save money. One of my married friends had 12 people at his wedding (all immediate family) to keep costs down. The one I went to involving families from the north (though the bride moved to KY her senior year of HS and thats where the wedding took place) had easily 400 people.
That said, weddings are fun and as long as it was in the continental US and on a weekend without another major conflict I would go to any that I was invited to.