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Originally Posted by CalledDownLight
I don't know the legal system well enough to know why they can't drop it, but I was aware that they couldn't. I also think that anyone who feels this way needs to be proactive in changing their feelings and removing themselves from the situation.
Right - so in my example above - the reason that the woman couldn't make the charges against her abusive husband go away is because once the police take a report, it's not up to her to decide. It's a matter of the law.
(You can see how this must happen a lot in cases of domestic violence - where an abused woman calls the cops, police take her abusive husband away, and she later thinks she made a mistake in getting the police involved, and tries to get them to drop the charges - she can't, and it's for her own damn good.)
My ultimate point is just because the victims think one way, that's not necessarily a great litmus test for what the "right" thing to think is.