IFAB Rules are what govern most football leagues around the world. There isn't precise rules on their site regarding this, but in 2009 the MLS put out this statement to their refs regarding contact above the shoulder.
https://www.massref.net/ussfdirectiv...e_Shoulder.pdf
Since MLS and EPL are both governed by the same rulesets for officiating you can see similar interpretations aren't unreasonable even though it isn't explicitly stated in the rules themselves that I could find.
TLDR:
Quote:
Consider the following tool vs. weapon comparison as “contact above the
shoulder” occurs.
• Tool: consider a foul or yellow card if contact made
• Weapon: a red card is mandated
Weapon:
• Excessive force used
• Safety of the player is endangered
• Hard surface (forearm/elbow/hand)
contacting soft surface (facial and
neck region)
• Arm/elbow UP and IN to opponent
• Arm/elbow/hand is swung toward
opponent’s facial region
• UP and IN – arm used as a ”battering
ram”
• Injury results
Quite literally ticks off every note on that list. Obvious ultra clear indisputable red card.
Find something concrete that says otherwise, or just accept that denying it's a clear red is delusional bias.