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06-21-2018 , 04:23 PM
All these things that we just shrugged off when Obama was POTUS? No more of that.

For example, when someone tells a cop they have no right to search or question them, you are on their side even if you think they own bitcoins and were into Ron Paul.
06-21-2018 , 04:36 PM
There’s a YouTube somewhere of a guy just refusing to show isn’t at one of these and asking “Are you gonna arrest me? Ami free to go?” and after a few minutes of arguing they let him go.
06-21-2018 , 07:53 PM
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Originally Posted by Victor
I was out west in 2008 and drove from texas to cali via az and nm and then back thru nv. I can remember being stopped at 3 checkpoints. one was in NM, another in CA. there may have been more.

this is nothing new.
Yeah, they're not as common near the Canadian border, but they're so frequent near Mexico that there are huge, permanent border check facilities on I-10 and I-5. First time I went through one was way back in 1993.
06-21-2018 , 08:13 PM
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Originally Posted by +rep_lol
haha that movie made parents lose their ****

its funny because ive been in some really heated situations and i never once actually picked up and used my board as a weapon like that or saw anybody else do it. now, i've definitely seen some concerned citizens try to be a hero and stand in the way of whatever obstacle was being skated, and end up getting plowed into like a freight train or having a board shot into their legs if they tried to jump out in front of someone at the last second. but 99% of the time people arent actually trying to do ****, theyre just gonna mouth off at you or call the cops, and you ignore/ridicule them or end up leaving. but man if some bigger adult's gonna throw a punch and not expect to get clobbered? lol.
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Originally Posted by +rep_lol
he's lucky that skater kids are pussies nowadays, grinding comfortably in their perfect little cookie cutter cages that now dot the cityscape of any metropolitan/suburban area and terrified to step out of line

back in my day, he'd get a board to the head for trying that ****, and i guarantee you nobody would still be around once the cops got there.
Which is it?
06-22-2018 , 12:07 AM
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Originally Posted by +rep_lol
oh boy, this might be long.

lots of grounding in my youth, tons of "talks" about my attitude/behavior which i mostly spaced out and ignored, and eventually once i got thrown out of school in 10th grade, they basically just went fairly hands-off and gave me more autonomy/freedom to make and (hopefully) learn from my mistakes. their unspoken position eventually became hey, if you focus enough on school to maintain a good GPA ("good" in those days was like 3-4 not 4+), we'll turn a blind eye to all the weed smoking, skateboarding, and class skipping. i think they sensed at a certain point that i was miserable, had no real direction or motivation, and was full of self-hatred (which caused a certain insecurity in me which i refused to acknowledge, leading to anxiety and eventually depression) from an entire youth spent rebelling against anybody in a position of authority.

i think that matters were made worse re: my ODD when my mother decided to enroll me in the same christian school as my sister (~age 7-14), and i feel like they recognized the damage that it had done when i entered my teenage years. one of the things about ODD is that, as a kid, you feel like you're smarter and know better than the adults who tell you things that you don't want to hear- ESPECIALLY when you feel like you can't relate to them on any level. when all the authority figures in your life are christian zealots who are plainly idiotic and hypocritical, it magnifies the feelings of resentment which makes the behavioral/attitude problems even worse. because **** these people, it's that simple. unhealthy or non-existent coping skills are another hallmark. kids' brains aren't developed enough to really grasp the concepts of long-term consequences and nuance- i just decided at some point that all the adults were idiots and i wasn't going to listen to them anymore, period.

once i reached a point in my late 20s, i had some experiences with people, some of whom were friends, that made me recognize just how much of a rageaholic i was and how much of a selfish narrow-sighted ******* i could be. seeing other people excel in poker during times when i struggled also reinforced that i wasn't as smart as i thought i was. i also had an experience during a mushroom trip which must have activated whatever area of my brain is responsible for feeling empathy. as a poker player, i recognized that self-reflection is vital to survival and progress, but i wasn't honest with myself about the extent to which i was cognitively flawed. so i decided i was going to make some changes in my life to be a better person, and while there was a lot of severe depression resulting from it (sucks to "look in the mirror", so to speak, and not like what you see), it's worked out pretty well in the end.

i'm sure my wife will always be able to (rightfully) tease me about the way my ODD still shapes my worldview and my behavior, but i'm a big boy now and i've worked hard to recognize/accept my personal shortcomings and make positive changes. and at 35 years old, it's still an ongoing process. my mother's love, patience, and openness in communication has been vital to my development as an adult (and that goes for my dad too, but he's kind of an introvert and is very typical in his distaste for conversations revolving around feelings and what not).

i think for anybody who suspects their kid has ODD or doesn't respect them as parents or whatever else, it's important for your kid to not view you as an adversary, otherwise they won't listen to you. obviously it's bad to just be their best friend and give them everything they want, and it's a delicate balance- how do i speak to my child with the proper tone/insight/criticism to keep him or her from going on the defensive and rejecting all of the extremely valid things that i have to say? it's a maturity thing and a respect issue, and kids with ODD in particular are going to be immature due to deficient coping skills, and not going to respect authority for authority's sake- respect comes from a shared understanding of the world and feeling like somebody has your back when push comes to shove. and my parents always did, i was just too selfish/immature to realize it most of the time because i had made up my mind long ago that adults just didnt "get it". i'm not entirely sure how to speed up the process of maturity in a kid/teenager, but i began to show real progress there (as an adult, lol) once i knocked down emotional barriers and was truly honest with myself and my mother about all the feelings i had and the negative impacts that those feelings had on my life and my relationships with other people. i found talking with her to be very therapeutic, as i was always the type to bottle things up inside (again, another unhealthy coping mechanism). so like, counselling from a solid therapist seems like a really good start for anybody who suspects that their kid is having these same issues.

so tl;dr, it takes a lot of love, patience, guidance, and forgiveness. i am eternally grateful that my parents always had a lot of that.
wow thats a really good story i dont have odd. MY story is different when i was 13 I was 5'6" had sever skin problems and braces and like at lunch there was the table order of popular kids, the other popular kids, the cool nerds, the jocks , the other jocks, then the average kids for like 4 tables then the stoners and castaways , then the so called freaks, the the disabled kids, then the stunted then an empty table and in the very corner was me. I would eat alone and make an imaginary world to escape into. I had trouble talking to anyone.
But I did have two really good friends from egypt. one was an egyptian kid and the other was my friend pete who lived in egypt for 5 years because his father was a military commander of some sort. He was a major. I would go home and yell the entire time at my parents all sorts of nonsensical things and then me and pete would smoke cigarettes and talk about stuff in the woods. There was a really cool fort there and a swing and I sat on that swing an average of 48 hours per day. I also liked rollerblading. and magic the gathering of which i was a top ten player out of 200-300 registered players in the state. I never went to parties except parties thrown by my egyptian friend in the woods. No one would talk to me because I looked kind of scary with my scratched up face and because i never looked at anyone.
One of the reasons I said in that thread one time looks are more important than
confidence is I had a dramatic change in looks over the course of a few months
and that caused things to come together at 15-16. I grew from 5'6" to 5'9" and a half , lost my braces and my skin problem disappeared. When i walked down the hallways I didnt expect anyone to talk to me.
I became very attractive. So one day I was walking down the hall and a very attractive girl was like hey how are you? are you new? I turned around expecting to see a guy who looks like cory monteith. but no one was behind me. I didn't know what to say since no one talks to me. After school that day I went into a subway and overheard some girls nervously deciding on how to introduce themselves to me. MY social skills in a normal context had deteriorated from years of being not allowed to eat at home, constantly treated as a ****** and being isolated. So the things I said got interpreted much better than they would have before and I gained a reputation as a reserved cool guy who did his own thing and at that time as a bit of a jerk. The jerk part was basically because I didn't know what to say, realized what not to say by then and so I often came across as uncaring. I went to a lot of parties and became fairly popular and made a decent amount of friends. and girlfriends. After that things got really weird. my dad became the ceo of a company with hundreds of employees. my cousin inherited several million dollars and a number of sportscars. I became involved in a gay sex orgy group. For a brief period of time I was living a kind of wasp fantasy lifestyle. This didnt last. I spent way too much money, did some extremely stupid stuff, got excommunicated from my family. I got straight fs a few semesters and basically kansas state was the only college i could go to. At kansas stater I became a severe alcoholic, skpped finals , slowly lost all my friends. I would drink for days straight. my dorm roomate left and I didnt even notice. when i got kicked out I was sent to a psychiatrist and my dorm room was full of bugs.

I decided I didnt need any of those things and built my own life from scratch. That didnt go so well either. I work in a grocery store.
06-22-2018 , 12:09 AM
Sheesh.

06-22-2018 , 01:35 PM
How do you deprogram people like this?

06-22-2018 , 01:37 PM
you dont, you just shame and dismiss her all the way to her grave
06-23-2018 , 07:39 AM
I was hacked obv.


"Shoot them all at the border": DMV employee investigated for Facebook comment on immigrants


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In her bio on Facebook, McAllen wrote, "I don't have room in my heart for drama, disrespect or hate." But she seemed to have a very different attitude when discussing immigration policy in the comments section of a Facebook post.

"I personally think they should shoot them all at the border and call it good... it'll save us hard working AMERICAN'S billions of dollars on our taxes!!" she wrote. She ended the remark with a winking emoticon.
06-23-2018 , 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by spaceman Bryce
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i dont wanna derail this thread too much (probably too late), but...

those teenage/adolescent years are awkward for basically everyone, sorry to hear you had such a rough go of it. the sort of aimless wandering that you describe from your teen/early adult years sounds a lot like my experiences [ minus the gay sex orgies, i wasnt so lucky ]- just a general lack of focus and direction.

serious question- have you ever gone to see a psychiatrist? i've had undiagnosed/unmanaged mental illness for years and i feel like you might be in the same boat. just judging by your tone and the (in)frequency of your posts, you seem to oscillate between manic and depressive phases, very similar to some of my friends who are bipolar (which they manage very well with meds nowadays. in the past, not so much).
06-23-2018 , 02:43 PM
Therapy is great. In a perfect society we should all have mandatory therapy when we're in high school.
06-23-2018 , 02:57 PM
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Originally Posted by gobbo
Therapy is great. In a perfect society we should all have mandatory therapy when we're in high school.
Looking back I’m always surprised that my public high school with 2k students didn’t have an in-house therapist that you could talk to confidentially about anixiety, depression etc.
06-23-2018 , 06:21 PM
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Originally Posted by +rep_lol
you dont, you just shame and dismiss her all the way to her grave
This

The constant mistake is thinking time should be spent winning these people over instead of abandoning them, outnumbering them, and never giving them a seat back at the table until the end of time

If after all this time you are a 99%er and a hardline rump supporter you’re unsalvagable human garbage

The same applies for the 1% rump supporters but at least the financial reasons can be rationalized
06-23-2018 , 07:12 PM
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Originally Posted by +rep_lol
i dont wanna derail this thread too much (probably too late), but...

those teenage/adolescent years are awkward for basically everyone, sorry to hear you had such a rough go of it. the sort of aimless wandering that you describe from your teen/early adult years sounds a lot like my experiences [ minus the gay sex orgies, i wasnt so lucky ]- just a general lack of focus and direction.

serious question- have you ever gone to see a psychiatrist? i've had undiagnosed/unmanaged mental illness for years and i feel like you might be in the same boat. just judging by your tone and the (in)frequency of your posts, you seem to oscillate between manic and depressive phases, very similar to some of my friends who are bipolar (which they manage very well with meds nowadays. in the past, not so much).
Yes. I have seen a number of psychiatrist, social workers and therapists over the years. In fact I was all set to be shipped off to the mental institution. But I have never been in an mental institution or stuck there. Im far from undiagnosed.
06-23-2018 , 09:32 PM
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Originally Posted by ecriture d'adulte
Looking back I’m always surprised that my public high school with 2k students didn’t have an in-house therapist that you could talk to confidentially about anixiety, depression etc.
Even as a kid I knew that was a really stupid idea and it's only gotten worse since. Schools only care about saving their own asses.

At best, prescribe some drug the kid doesn't actually need and none of the issues ever get addressed.

I'm as emotional as a rock so I'll never understand bi-polar and that realm. Gl with it is all I got I guess :/
06-23-2018 , 10:51 PM
I don’t have a good link on my phone plus I’m lazy. But Allison ettel, a white lady that called the police on an 8yr old black child selling water outside the SF ballpark has been crushed on Twitter all day today. It’s been great.
06-23-2018 , 10:52 PM
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Originally Posted by spaceman Bryce
Yes. I have seen a number of psychiatrist, social workers and therapists over the years. In fact I was all set to be shipped off to the mental institution. But I have never been in an mental institution or stuck there. Im far from undiagnosed.
IDK, but to me, you seem just fine and someone who is bored as hell and is looking for guidance. "the secret to happiness is progress."

TBH, I don't see any ****ing way how someone can post 15x a day on a touchy subject and start or maintain any degree of direction towards something new. I'm pretty sure that there is something out there outside of this habitual disaster that suits your fancy.
06-24-2018 , 10:19 AM
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Originally Posted by ecriture d'adulte
Looking back I’m always surprised that my public high school with 2k students didn’t have an in-house therapist that you could talk to confidentially about anixiety, depression etc.
This would be illegal, since mental/medical treatment generally can't be provided to minors without their parents' consent.
06-24-2018 , 10:27 AM
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Originally Posted by DrChesspain
This would be illegal, since mental/medical treatment generally can't be provided to minors without their parents' consent.
They have a therapist at my kids private school. They have to get parents permission to talk to kids 1 on 1. Not sure if it has to be different in public schools.

Last edited by ecriture d'adulte; 06-24-2018 at 10:46 AM.
06-24-2018 , 10:49 AM
Lol a little bit at a time. By this time next year they will be doing stories like: Should Cross Burning On Private Property Be Allowed? Our Panel Weighs In Next...

06-24-2018 , 11:01 AM
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Originally Posted by ecriture d'adulte
They have a therapist at my kids private school. They have to get parents permission to talk to kids 1 on 1. Not sure if it has to be different in public schools.
One of the perks of being in athletics at USC, even if not on a scholarship, is access to a sports psychologist. The kids I knew on the rowing team all thought that having someone to unload their problems on once a week was gigantic.
06-24-2018 , 11:23 AM
Wait what? The white woman who called the cops on the little kid selling water sells edibles for cats? Simulation confirmed insisting upon itself at this point.



06-24-2018 , 11:34 AM


A+
06-24-2018 , 11:36 AM
The funniest part to me is the whole permit thing. Reminds me of that Simpsons episode where homer forms a vigilante police force and harasseds underage kids drinking beer WITHOUT A PERMIT!
06-24-2018 , 11:36 AM
A pothead who worked with me fed his cats some kind of cbd or cbn product. He was sure that cbwhatever cured absolutely everything.

      
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