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Originally Posted by Trolly McTrollson
Even the "good" outcomes of workplace relationships still kinda suck. If one of you gets into a supervisory role, that's hella problematic. Even if it works out, do you really want to be with your SO all day long every day? That just seems stifling.
Also the whole 'you spend all day with people, it just happens' reveals a startling lack of agency. Dating at work is obviously a choice. Normal people can control their libidinal and romantic impulses. I'm not saying it's a perfect circle on a Venn Diagram but the kinda of people who claim they have no impulse control over who they develop romantic and sexual feelings for is going to cluster around people with boundary and self control issues and imo are just the kind of people who are likely to engage in harassment. If I had an employee who admitted they can fall in love with someone just by working with them and they saw dating as just a natural and unavoidable next step, that'd be a huge red flag.
I acknowledge it absolutely does happen (workplace romances). And that they're probably kinda common. I ain't denying reality. But that's the point: it's why harassment at work and other forms of sexual predation are common. That's not to say predation underlies all workplace romances but that people (including women) have these bizarre, startling life ethics that seems to assume love and romance and sex are uncontrollable urges and the workplace is a sometimes appropriate outlet for it.
Go to work with the mindset and dedication to do productive work things and not to find a **** buddy, and marvel at how harassment is a total non issue.
Last edited by DVaut1; 10-20-2017 at 01:46 PM.