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Originally Posted by Man of Means
With online dating, school, church, meetups, shared friends, there are more than enough non-work venues for finding dates. But let's say someone is convinced that a person at work is the one for them. Is there a non-creepy, non-harassing way to proceed?
if 'the one for you' coworker is someone you actually know and talk to and get along with, asking if they want to get a drink after work or w/e is fine (obv 'drink after work' isn't necessarily a date). if drink after work goes well, ask her to dinner at the weekend (which obviously is a date). whether she says yes or no, no sane person would consider this progression of events wrong or harassment. there are plenty of variations on this for people who are socially competent.
if 'the one for you' coworker is someone you don't know at all, but just lust after from across the office because she's omg hot, and if you're kind of ham-fisted with social interactions, danger! you're about to **** up! better to not say anything than wander up to an almost-stranger during coffee break and say 'uhhhhhh I just have to say uhhh, you look really good in that skirt uhh, you're really beautiful, how about we do something sometime haha?' if you do that, don't be surprised when HR comes calling.