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Originally Posted by Trolly McTrollson
Just seems like there's a very slippery slope between problematic behavior and non-problematic behavior, especially when people have different standards for what's acceptable. Plus it gives cover to the creep who will insist that he is just engaging in innocent flirtations when he tell the HR chick she has a nice ass. Seems like you want to tell the guys "happy hunting, but don't cross the line or you'll get a harassment lawsuit." Seems easier to just tell people to knock it off when they're on the clock.
Like DVaut I love repeating myself, so I'll say again that consent seems like a pretty bright line to me, and none of this slippery slope business seems to really be addressing that. Susan and Danielle don't have to have the exact same standards for what's acceptable to them for Johnny to know when he's been told no, asked to stop, met with disinterest or disapproval, etc.
So, yes, if you decide to say something sexually suggestive toward a coworker--at work or outside of work--you are taking a social risk, but as All In Flynn pointed out, that's true across a wide variety of social contexts. Should I not ask Jenny to the Magic Under the Sea Dance because what if she says no and what if we then have to see each other in chemistry class? Yeah, that's awkward, sorry, bro, rejection sucks, but that doesn't make asking Jenny to the dance harassment. Politely asking someone for a date doesn't violate their boundaries, their consent, their will. Repeatedly persisting in asking them on a date after they've said no is different.
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I get that there will always be flirting at work and people will tell off-color jokes and commit minor transgressions. I don't think that's a reason we shouldn't have norms in place that discourage that kind of thing. OK, sure, things could be taken to an inflexible extreme where no hint of sexuality is allowable at work, but all these harassment stories that are breaking makes think that we aren't there yet.
I agree harassment is a major problem and that there are institutional power structures that shelter it. I'm just responding to what's been proposed by some ITT to address it, namely a general prohibition on workplace romance and flirting.