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Originally Posted by zikzak
It's a lot easier to tell yourself that you got bullied for being smart instead of whatever the real reasons were. And that's not to say bullying is justified. Kids' social structures can be random as hell in determining who ends up at the top and bottom of the playground hierarchy. But bullies don't target intelligence, they target weakness.
This is true. But it requires the smart kid to also be emotionally strong and well-adjusted at what is typically a tough age for a lot of kids. I always marveled at the odd-ball kids of John Hughes movies who didn't let high school beat them down. I know I did. I wasn't particularly emotionally strong. But I wasn't the weakest kid either. And I was big which saved me from a decent chunk of the bullying.
And yeah I could be kind of unintentionally obnoxious when I got 100 on the test or w/e - which definitely brought it on myself. So my solution was to become the lazy smart kid who just didn't give a ****. Super winning identity.
No offense but I get the feeling most of you lived fairly sheltered lives if you've never seen or heard of anyone bullied for being smart/"talking white" (it's the same trigger for the bully - it's just another form of being different). Life isn't always like the Cosby show or Family Matters. Erkel would have gone through hell in a tough school. I was there. I saw it first-hand.
I also saw the kid in my life go to a school where being smart was cool and almost all the kids went on to college. It's like night and day. Getting 100 on the test was cool and you could crow about it all you wanted.
That was one thing about arcade video games in the early 80s. It was one of the few places where it was cool to be smart or good at something other than sports.