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Originally Posted by zikzak
How do you know there's baggage? How do you know it was a weird relationship? Are we really calling a 17 year old a child? How many 17 year olds meet a woman at a hotel, get served alcohol by her, and don't have at least some inkling of where things might be heading?
I suppose it's possible everything went down exactly how this guy claims, but is it likely?
I'm steering clear of unpacking some of the subtext here to answer your question in a straightforward way. Go ahead and remove whatever parts of the story you think are suspect or just unprovable, whatever those are. If we include the following which I only know because I read itt--She knew him and worked with him as a 7-year-old when she was already a sexually active adult. She directed him in some scenes that sound very intense for an adult, never mind a second grader. She called him her son and kept in touch with him (i don't know how close they really were so if that is one of the questions, make it barely idgaf). If you doubt that he had a different power dynamic and level of trust with her from this previous experience than just horny 17 y/o vs beautiful older woman, why?
At what age do you think she started finding him sexually attractive? Is it likely or unlikely that this move of giving him alcohol, a bj, and sex at 17 was the first potentially inappropriate thing she said or did with him--that is if you don't include acting out hooker and beating scenes with him at 7?
I don't know what to tell you about it, man. Even if you imagine that you would be fine with that scenario for yourself, even if you think you would be fine with it for your own kid or another kid you care about, the fact is there are boys, red-blooded American, hormonal, sex-crazed boys, who would come away with more from an experience like this than getting to have sex with a hot chick. To understand something like this takes the empathy to consider more than the chance to "get some" in a bubble.