Tbh.

Nah on a serious note. In my opinion a wedding is overrated. I'd never want to spend A LOT of cash on it. I'd rather have it more private with my closest friends / family around and have dinner and enjoy the company. Nothing fancy. Esp now in the economy I think it's better to invest that money in your house than to waste it on a party.

As for the ring. Something nice is enough, but I'd never go over the top. It's still a ring and money can be invested in better things.
Same with jewelry. I just don't understand that. Once on vacation I saw my dad just buy a couple of earrings for my mom worth 20k euro just like that -_-' just 2 pearls with some gold. I mean ok you earn a lot of money, but that's a car :s

Hmm I think that idea is mostly why western civilization sucks.

That's just a matter of opinion (and a particularly weird one). I don't think jewelery looks particularly nice but I'm sure most people disagree. It's still besides the point. A tattoo would also symbolize a permanent monogamous relationship (plus you can't take it off while cheating).

Again, just a matter of opinion. I'd personally prefer a more private, intimate wedding ceremony but castles are cool.

You could also think about it this way. $5k is still the price of a mediocre used car. Is that what you want to project to her that she's worth? Why not go for a $25k ring while your at it. That's the whole point I guess. Will she even know how much the ring cost? And more importantly, why? Couldn't you just pick out a ring that looks great, as I'm sure there are rings for a fraction of $5k?

Yeah sure if she's so shallow that she'll love you more if you buy her a $5k ring compared to a $0.5k then go ahead. I'd also make sure to do a prenuptial agreement.

Uhmm no, I fail to see how you could draw that conclusion.

Food, apartment, car, clothes (basics), boat, traveling, concert tickets (luxury) to name a few, are all useful things that money can buy for you and your family. An expensive ring isn't one of them.

Agree completely. I just wouldn't want to get married to someone who needed a $5k ring to feel happiness.

Again, this.

I just think blowing $5k on a ring is extravagant. Even more so if you've watched Blood Diamond.

Yeah, I mean wouldn't they both feel better if they for instance bought $200 earrings and donated $19.8k to charity?

But I guess he also bought her an expensive wedding ring and now has to live up to expectations when she gets bored from her old jewelery.

re: rings/society in general

There's some stupid ****ing rule that ******ed men probably google that says you should spend 3 months salary. Of course, jewelry salesmen decided that rule many years ago b/c it's good for their bottom line.

There's got to be a pretty flat utility curve for engagement rings. What I'm saying is, if you're truly in love (somebody said that earlier, fryke?) then it shouldn't really matter what the ring cost. The value received from say a $1k ring should be very close to the value received from a ring worth 3 months salary. It's a ring, it's shiny, but more importantly it's a symbol of your relationship. It's not supposed to be a status symbol, but that's what it ends up being. I couldn't tell you the difference between a cheap, medium, and high end ring. I helped register about 280 kids for youth soccer and didn't even notice if parents were wearing rings, let alone if they were baller.

/rant

nah my dad was dropass poor when he married my mom. He went to life on his own at age of 17. Got 2 university degrees (econometry & math) and worked every night in a bar to pay his bills. He had nothing.

My mom is happy with absolutely nothing as she was used pure pure luxury (private jet etc.), but fell in love with my dad who wasn't even allowed in a fancy restaurant because his pants had holes. My dad gave those earrings, because he wanted it not because he needs too and he can afford it easily.

I guessed totally wrong then. Cool story behind your dad, you must be very proud. I would.

how tilting:



Golbuff's girlfriend on twitter:


gets better, pic:



then this!

i'll probably spend around 10k on a ring

gotta represent my douche/idiot/wannabe status and get something shiny

I don't get how twitter works...kinda glad that's the case.


I'm pretty sure the live commentary was saying that it was BVB and they were also debating if Ivey limped or not (iirc they weren't definitive on his action)

all this ring talk and everyone forgets the most important thing!

shpanko - pics of future fiance or gtfo!

DL; my whole point of the post was to indicate it is all a personal opinion.

I don't work my ass off to provide for some kids in africa while living under a bridge. While other may feel great giving to charity, I don't. I work my ass of so I can do the things I think are important to me. To me it is important that something that will be there for the rest of your life is nice. Whether it is a wedding ring, a diamond ring, a house or a wedding memory - it has to be nice.

There is one rational reason to buy very expensive jewelry/watches etc, although it is not commonly applicable; I am very young, as is my girlfriend and I drive a small car. When talking to other business people they would think I am someone's assistant if I don't wear a nice watch or clothes - which would hurt business.

In certain circles you need to do the typical 'status' things such a rolex, mercedes, tailored suit even if you don't care about it or you will lose business.

Jesus, I had no idea that just mentioning buying an engagement ring would stir up so much controversy. TBH she initially wasn't even sure if she wanted a ring. She's the kind of girl that would be completely fine with my tying some string around her finger when I propose as she's the opposite of materialistic. That said it's my choice what I chose to do with my money and this is what I want. I want her to have a nice ring. It's something that she will wear basically every day for the rest of her life and something that symbolizes our love/union/partnership. I'm not going insane and spending a huge portion of my net worth or anything but I do want to spend enough to get something nice for her because I want to. Also I'm getting a ridiculous deal because I have some jewelery connections heheh so I feel a lot less bad about "wasting money" as many of you have put it.

Unfortunately no pics of the future fiance because she said she doesn't want her pic on the internet, bad beat I know.

It's the job of both parties to not make it repetitive. If someone's bored why on earth would they want to stay?

Misogyny from a couple of months back

pics of ms. ogyny or it didnt happen

shpanko: noun. shark on the virtual tables, fish in the jewelry store.

too bad mrs. shpanko isn't going to have her picture online...she's hot.

sigh no pics...

I never said love you more, I said be happier. Just like you would be happier if your wife bought you a good boat as opposed to a ****ty boat. It's not a waste of money if it makes someone you love happy. At the end of the day, a lot of modern society is a "status competition". Whether my GF/Wife cares about that or not, I still want her to win more times than she doesnt, and like it or not, when it comes to girls, finger bling plays a big part. Every single girl you GF/Wife knows will judge her on her ring, it only varies in how much. Just like every guy you know will judge you on your car. I would want my partner to come out well in that judgeathon.

That's simply not the case. You nailed the point yourself, its a status symbol, especially between girls. The fact that you don't notice rings is completely irrelevant, because other people do.

I mean an analogy would be if the proposal thing was reversed, and girls proposed to guy's, and bought them a car instead of a ring. No, its not going to change how much you love your wife whether she buys you a skoda or a Lambo, but lets not be weird hippies here, you are going to be a lot happier with the Lambo.

i's wonder why shpanko is one of the few posters with a girlfriend, let alone a fiancee

cause he beats the SSNL like no1 else!

And women are all golddiggers, clearly.

plenty of us have girlfriends. don't tell my wife though

It's touching that you asked.