oh hell no

disingenuous

Well her not agreeing to it would be pretty telling. He should just tell her he wants one and see what she says. She'll have no idea if she's legally obligated to give him one or not.

"What are you, crazy? You're being completely ridiculous demanding a paternity test. Of course this is our son! Why are you taking out your anger on our son? I'm beginning to think you resent him!"

Or something like that. And it's a response she might give whether he's the father or not, either way she could still be offended about the paternity test.

That seems like a hard case for her to make when he's just busted her cheating on him.

But... what if he sneaks the kid into a hospital without her knowing about it, and asks to have a paternity test done. She won't object, because she won't know about it, so the question is whether the hospital would need to seek her consent if they already have the father's. Nevermind what a sneaky move like that would do to the marriage though.

I keep googling for these:

Dad wasn't dad after all, but still owes child support

114 months of Child Support x $450-00 = $51,300-00 PLUS 114 months of Medical Insurance x $75.00 = $8550.00 for a to date total of $59,850.00

Children are hugely -EV.

Agreed. But I could imagine some (irrational) women taking that approach. Might be a good reason to divorce her anyway if she's like that.

I think he can do whatever he wants given she has put him in this position with her dishonesty and infidelity. Although sneaking the kid into the hospital sounds pretty crazy...

http://www.dnatesting.com/ go to ur pharmacy buy this test, go home, follow directions, (most likely get some hair from kid and urself), mail them in to the lab that the box gives you address for, get results with in 2 days, wife/mom never even knows!! things u can do these days are awesome!! piece of cake!! hope everything works out!! and no matter what no physical violence, or threats, just be happy that you out smarted her and are ready to move on with your new life, knowing you did the right thing!!

All you have to do is swab the kid's cheek, swab your cheek, and send the samples to a lab. It's not some kind of invasive medical procedure. This kind of paternity test isn't legally binding but that doesn't matter at this stage.

Yeah this. I cant muster up the energy to care about the exact same situation. Maybe hold off on confronting her for another few months, then I might be ready for this story again.

holy ****. 9 ****in comments about stealing her phone. wtf

Yeah, he seems quite excited about this.

"Seize the phone now if you haven't already."
"Stealing her phone is a pretty aggressive act. I'd expect some form of retaliation, probably not physical violence, but still."

So I guess this was your plan all along?

you're selling mbp short. his story was interesting and he told it well with all the details and back and forth you could want. this guy has given a tiny amount of information and ignored pretty much all questions for more. there's still time, but so far the similarity ends with suspecting a wife of cheating.

FYI - this.


in parallel with going through her phone, you should also setup a paternity test...I have a feeling your mind is just messing with you, but this is an easy one to put to rest.

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Sorry for you OP

Its evilsteve, he was hoping her phone is a blackberry and when she discovers her phone is stolen she will buy the new Iphone 4s from apple

evilsteve was just WAITING

Sigh.

OP, listen, you need to remove yourself from the situation. Go stay with a friend, get a hotel, whatever for a week. Don't talk to your wife. Don't steal the guys phone. Be the adult in the situation, because you aren't going to find out what you want to know by snooping around at this point. Schedule some time with a marriage counselor for the both of you. I promise you that is your best course of action. Regardless of whether you want to try to save the marriage or not, you are going to want to talk (A LOT!) about this, and having a mediator there is going to save you a lot of time and heartache.

In the next few days, if you haven't already, you are going to begin to feel like this was your fault, that you neglected her, that she had reasons for this, and that you can look past it if she promises it won't happen again. If you are with her then you two will probably be the happiest you have been in a long time. The sex will be great. You might be tempted to ignore what happened and just move on trying to put it behind you. That. Won't. Work. It's like a second honeymoon, and it will wear off.

Take some time apart. See a counselor.

This too for you future cuckolds. One of my bigger regrets with how I handled my situation was not keeping quiet for a couple of days while I gathered evidence.

This, outside of the baby thing, is pretty spot on. I would follow my advice and take some time apart then get into counseling. At the appropriate time there you can bring up your paternity questions. That is going to be a HUGE issue and I wouldn't broach it without a mediator.

Real men don't need a mediator.

manbearpig updates on your situation?

These threads are incredibly depressing. I'm never getting married.

(in b4 cause you're forever alone!)

OP, I am about to take off for the day, but I wanted to reiterate my main point, which is to get away from the situation for awhile.

Believe me, I understand exactly the emotions you are going through right now. Anger followed sadness by depression with some disbelief thrown in. Desperation to know the truth and to have closure. Those aren't going to go away right now by talking to her or stealing her phone or talking to the guy. Outside of her saying that she has been ****ing 17 dudes for the last 8 years, you aren't going to really believe what she says, whether it is the actual truth or not. You might want to believe, and talk yourself into believing it, but not knowing for sure is going to nag at you when you lay in bed at night.

Get away for awhile. Please. Take a long look at your marriage. Were you both happy? Were you a good husband and her a good wife? Have you ever cheated? Have you ever thought about cheating? Would you have cheated if you had the opportunity? That's a really big question that you should think really really hard about.

Really sorry you are going through this OP. It sucks worse than anyone who hasn't gone through it can know. Good luck with everything.

Hoping LFS (who was a huge help in my situation) and Bison post itt. They will both provide very thoughtful advice that you should listen to.

Not divorced. In counseling. Up and down emotionally. Not going to derail this thread though.

So your wife ****ed some other guy for long time and you want to punch him? dude wtf.. she is obv guilty.. that guy is just being a guy. She is obv lying and her reasons are LOL
Divorce... move on bc you too are not going to be happy again and this **** will always hunt your realtionship. There is plenty of beautiful women in this world
Probably contact some lawyers etc..

Hit up dat bank account first, homeslice.

She's shagging 2+2's very own Chad Aces.