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Originally Posted by 27offsuit
Speaking personally, and I'm one of the most loyal friends going
But are you anyone's
top 3 friend?
Pretty much everything has been covered extensively, but the one point that was lightly touched on that resonates the most with me is that this loan would do nothing more than enable his lifetime of degeneracy.
I wonder in what context the whole "I'm selling shoes on Ebay" came up? Was it in the e-mail asking for the "loan" or in some recent conversation? If it was in the e-mail then he's playing at your emotions, and if so that plus his gameplan to leave the country to "find himself" proves that he is woefully out of touch with reality or at least willfully avoiding it.
No matter how bad the economy at the moment, if he is literate and presentable there is always a job for him if he looks for it doing something. That he evidently isn't trying very hard should be a concern to you. What are the odds he goes to South America and randomly grows a work ethic? Pretty slim to none, it's much more likely he'd chew coca leaves all day and fall in with some liberation army in Chile.
Also the long nights of doing blow would concern me if I were you. You only see him once per year, how do you know he doesn't have a problem with this? He may not but damn, the dude is in his mid-30s and partying like it's ten years ago. Gotta grow out of that sometime.
Final point: some posters have said he can "go to South America and make money there to send back to you". That is exactly backwards. He'd make a fraction there of what he could make here doing the same thing. Mexicans and Indians come here to make money and send back to their country and family; Americans don't go to Bolivia to support their family here unless it is a highly specialized skill and it pays American dolares.
Bottom line, you sound like a loyal friend and he sounds like he's in a bad spot, but you'd only be helping him escape the reality he needs to face eventually.