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Originally Posted by King_of_NYC
I think the issue is that this dinner is really no different than any other sort of dinner party. If a spouse is invited, it's understood that the other half is also invited. There are exception like bridal showers, bachelor parties or even guys/girls nite out. I don't think this is one of those exceptions.
Now of course she could have opted out and not go, but not to be included in the invite to start with is not rite imo.
None of what you are saying here makes any difference at all as to why she or you should be particularly bothered if you actually went to this. You can think he's a nit/douche for declining her after you asked to have her included. But to then not go yourself after that is just weird.
What YOU think should be one of the exceptions or not really doesn't matter. It's his dinner. He thought this was fine. You are creating way more drama than necessary by not going.
And again..it still doesn't address why your wife would hold you responsible or have any issue with you if you went.
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Originally Posted by King_of_NYC
You guys are funny. Bro's before hoes, wife be damned huh? Lol
What you say about weddings is true but when you 'draw the line' with my old lady over a crappy dinner, then I had to make my own choice. He didn't pay btw, his sister did (parents long dead) & I would have reimbursed her in a second if it really was about the money. But pride would never let anyone actually admit that. Instead they'll just make an awkward request & expect everyone to follow it cuz we were friends since grade-school. No thanks..
This isn't "bros before hoes...wife be damned" at all. You aren't damning your wife in the least. She wasn't invited to this thing because they have their own rules for it for whatever reason. But to be all drama-bitch about it like you were and simply not show up is really inappropriate.
You are digging a pretty big hole here. At the start I thought you were equal on the doucheyness scale as the guy who insisted she couldn't come. But now I think you are running away in a landslide. "Bros before hoes?" Really?
I agree that this is quickly turning into a case of "wtf is the matter with you?"