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Originally Posted by SoulPower
Yes, berating someone about taking home a plate of finger food is exactly how most adults I know would act. If you would actually confront someone about that instead of just not inviting them you are a nit.
Telling someone that you don't appreciate them taking food to go for someone who isn't there without them even asking doesn't fall under berating them. Whether or not it is berating is in the tone that you communicate this to them. And for you to automatically think that talking to someone about this= berating them shows that you must be a very thin skinned individual, and it therefore doesn't surprise me in the slightest that your obvious fear of being honest with someone for something unpleasant because of the discomfort it may cause would lead you to take the passive aggressive approach and just not invite someone the next time.
I have many friends who through the course of our relationships, they have been guilty of some kind of social faux pas and I have told them afterwards. The same thing has happened to me on occasion (where I've committed a party foul). I have been grateful every single time they brought it to my attention, because it has made me a better person and has saved me the potential embarrassment and other consequences at future events.
If it's the wife's friend and she's any kind of close friend, tell her to sack up and talk to her about it.
The "guess the plate weight" game is awesome too, though.