Quote:
Originally Posted by thabighurt35
relationships are hard for many reasons, but there is a lot of give and take required to make them last.
I would try and understand her reasons for wanting to work. Maybe she sees that as a form of independence, maybe she has some reservations about being a housewife or a kept woman.
money is not the most important thing in life.
well i feel like i've sacrificed a lot, i invested a lot of my poker winnings in buying a house so we could set up a family/home without the pressure of a mortgage. i've always paid for my gf and enabled her to pursue higher education with no stress.
i agree these are valid points and i do understand and acknowledge them. just not sure they are enough to outweigh the long term upside to having a lot more $ as a family unit.
Quote:
Why did you decide to have a family if you dont want to spend any time with them?
You make them seem like more of a drain on your personal time, than people you care about.
i do spend a lot of time with my family and i enjoy it but i also have to be pragmatic, there isn't much time left in online poker and it's my best opportunity to make decent $. i'm the breadwinner so i worry a lot about providing.
my volume is pretty average as it is due to the time i spend with my family. it's really the betrayal of trust that is the bigger issue and my partner not acknowledging it.
appreciate the responses and getting a different viewpoint on this btw