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Originally Posted by that_pope
Today is officially or unofficially my 6 months of sobriety. My app has it at 180 days, so if I count months as 30 days, that means it today. If I go to the day of the month I stopped 6 months later I still have a few more days to go. Either way, the post is bumped so I'll post.
I've had a few instances where it sounded like a good idea to drink, but I never got closer than thinking about it for 15-30 minutes. I have a Vegas trip coming up in June that I have penciled in as a possibility to start drinking again, so that might be keeping me sober by having that carrot out there. The last few days I've been sick and its felt party like a really bad hangover and has reminded me how much fun that isn't, so I am definitely not a lock to drink in June.
I have started to look down on people who drink now, seeing them as weak. For example in Feb we went out with my parents and brother for my brother's bday and my Dad and brother got a beer and my Dad took his first drink and made this loud satisfied sigh and commented on how amazing it tastes. And yes he is all too familiar with my struggles, but he just can't help himself.
As for my program, there are no meetings, just listening to podcasts 3-5 days a week. I usually only do it during a walk at night, while during the first month I was making sure I listened to at least an hour a day.
I definately feel healthier and am exercising more, but haven't lost as much weight as I would expect because I am treating myself to high calorie drinks and desserts much more than I would when drinking.
Congrats on 6 months! I think the bolded can be a dangerous line of thinking. I feel like looking down on your dad for this is probably more of a feeling of resentment that he can drink, while you cannot. Drinking while you are in Vegas is, well, entirely up to you. You have to decide for yourself. I think you realize no one is going to tell you its a good idea.
I posted in this thread about 1 1/2 years ago 10 months sober. I then relapsed at about a year and things got bad. Screwed up a lot of stuff in my life, went to the hospital in withdrawals for the first time, then went again a month later, then went to detox a month or so after that. I have been sober again for about 8 months.
I am trying to work the steps, get my life together, seeing a psychologist, and working with my family(who have been unwavering in their support since they found out). My wife has been amazing in continuing support as well.
Sometimes I just feel destined to be a drunk. All the good things happening in my life right now and I still often daydream about a bender. Its a weird feeling driving in your nice car with your amazing wife to a nice dinner with friends you genuinely like, and looking out the window and feeling truly jealous of the homeless guy on the side of the road cause hes got 2 40s with him.
Theres a quote from True Detective that seems en-grained in my mind "There's nothing I can do about it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but... I'm gonna have a drink." That seems to be my general mindset, no matter how hard I am working to change it.