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Originally Posted by 27offsuit
pope,
You got this on the tailgate. Discipline, baby.
I know this is an attempt to be helpful so I don't want this to seem like I'm picking on it or being a dick but I just want to post this: lesson one of dealing with an addiction is that you don't got this when it comes to not doing it. That's why AA requires the symbolic step of handing control over your addiction to a "higher power", and whether you go AA or not you need the same step one of realizing that letting your ego be in charge and willpowering through things is doomed to failure. that_pope definitely seems to understand this in regards to managing his behaviour by having some calories in the afternoon etc.
The gold standard for avoiding problematic behaviour is obviously to not put yourself in the situation, but for something like the tailgating where you can't do that, I'd prescribe mindfulness. It's normal to feel emotions like disappointment or sadness that you can't be part of a thing you used to enjoy. Keep tabs on how you feel and acknowledge it to yourself explicitly, like literally think "I'm sad that I can't have some beers, but that's OK". If negative emotions aren't acknowledged and allowed to play out, the ego becomes frustrated, petulant, angry, resentful - and while you can win a few battles against that, you'll lose the war.
Speaking of, I am cranky as hell this evening (no real reason, just everything pissing me off today) and would really like to get a bottle of wine and tip it down my throat, but I'm going to go for a night time hike instead. Sitting at home all evening would be a bad idea. Hike, early night, avoid situation. My ego is convinced the hike will not help, but on another level I know from experience that it is full of **** on this subject.