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Originally Posted by Heroball
And (more) irritable.
Any idea how long the irritability generally lasts for?
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Originally Posted by Emily G
Thanks for the link Emily, it could be something to consider.
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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
If he messes up, don't make him feel guilty or bad. Be supportive the entire time. Don't make him quitting about you or about your relationship; its completely about what is going on in his head.
Send him encouraging messages throughout the day.
I don't try to make him feel guilty for smoking. I met him that way and accepted it so it would be a bit weird to not accept him now. Probably the only time I may have inadvertently guilt tripped him was when my mum died of mouth and throat cancer and I was grieving. I may have said something like "How the **** can you keep smoking when you saw what my mum just went through?". It was a genuine question though as I was pretty mystified that anyone seeing someone they love going through that would continue to smoke. I haven't referred to it since though. It's 100% his decision and if he quits and then restarts again that's up to him. Every time someone trys quitting is a step closer to actually quitting Imo, so it's all a positive.
I'm not sure he would appreciate messages regarding quitting being sent to him but it's something to consider. Thanks for your POV.
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Originally Posted by Schlitz mmmm
Fortify within his mind how smokers are pretty nasty. I looked around at all the loser acquaintances I knew that smoked, and that provided inducement.
I don't think I could do this lol but thanks for the idea
Fabian,
I couldn't resist