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What's the best way to tell girls I'm moving in 2-3 weeks. I want to weed out the ones only looking for something serious but I don't want them to have to agree to sex date/feel slutty or whatever. Maybe I should wait until I'm on the date, but I'd hate to put in all the effort for them just to shut down after they hear it.

I think it's super ****ty (complete waste of their time) on your part to drop that on them during the date. Make sure your profile says "short term dating" and "casual sex" only. But I am also really careful about not leading people on in general, so interested in what other people have to say on the subject.
It sucks, but the whole "girls shouldn't be sluts" thing is a cultural thing that everyone who likes sex should be actively working to get rid of. Then you wouldn't have this problem.

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02-03-2014 , 09:47 AM

#24952

DontDoItPls

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ATF,

You sir are a very weird dude. Your posts although extremely entertaining are starting to get weirder and weirder.

Also, seems you are getting back to being an alcoholic.

Good luck!

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02-03-2014 , 10:20 AM

#24953

AnonymousTextField

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Originally Posted by DontDoItPls

ATF,

You sir are a very weird dude. Your posts although extremely entertaining are starting to get weirder and weirder.

Also, seems you are getting back to being an alcoholic.

Good luck!

I was on a week long bender last week. Besides the one beer, Sunday was my first sober evening. AH has that affect on me, sobriety. I'm not quite sure what's getting "weirder and weirder" about my posts; I'm just trying to enjoy my life. If others find it weird, I'm okay with it, and even better with it if it's entertaining cuz I'm certainly entertained with my existence in the matrix.

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02-03-2014 , 10:26 AM

#24954

lazer

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ATF, you're getting worse. Seriously. I'd try to elaborate and objectively explain why your response to what I'm writing will also be wrong but I have an interview I need to prepare for....someone needs to get El D in here.

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02-03-2014 , 10:27 AM

#24955

lazer

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Originally Posted by AnonymousTextField

TR w AH

Our plan is to spend the day finishing her site. I get there at like 2PM and she had just woken up, literally. When I call to say I there she says she's not even dressed or out of bed. Anyway, she hesitantly gives me a beer when I ask for one - she says she's excited to help me with my alcoholism - and we brainstorm about her site. We put some work in while chatting. The entire time I'm trying to escalate physically by stroking her or grabbing her tits or jamming my hand in between her legs or kissing her. She doesn't stop me but also doesn't really reciprocate. It's been a while since a girl reciprocated and I had forgotten what it's like... StonerGirl would reciprocate with me on Thursday, kissing me independently and pulling my dick out of my pants... so now I have a template that's fresh in my mind.

Eventually we go out to eat and she says she'll pay. I'm shocked by it and say I didn't think she had it in her. She also offers to by a Groupon to the spa but I tell her that the deal is over. We pick up some Mexican and go back to her place to eat it. Afterward she smokes a little pot and we continue working on her site. She makes a point to say she wants to get this finished and that I should want to finish it too because I probably think the site is the only reason she's hanging with me and that it's quite the opposite, she'd rather go out and have fun. I continue to molest her and at one point we're on her bed and I'm about to go down on her but she's on her period. I say I'll eat it anyway or is that gross? She says, "no it's not," but I think it's gross so I stop. I basically have all access to her body and at one point, when I'm rubbing in between her legs, she kinda reaches toward my crotch then pulls away. I grab her hand and pull it toward it but release because I'm not a total creeper. She says something about us building intimacy. I'm like, that's fine; sex and getting off is important but not the end all be all. In time.

The bottom line is she's still seeing this other guy who she alternatively calls her ex-boyfriend, boyfriend and the guy she's seeing. When I tell her I tell other girls that she's just a friend that's "down on her luck and who I'm helping out", she says she tells her bf that we're just friends and that she kicked me out last weekend when I upset her by trying to make out with her. Although I tell her I love her for fun and she says I should be telling my "OKC sluts" that I'm in love with someone else, I have no feelings for her whatsoever other than thinking she's cool, really attractive and interesting in how different she is than most other women. We get along just fine and if nothing ever develops and we end up as friends, I'd be fine with it. If she gets her **** together, given her unique personality, she's going to have an impact in this life. As an example of how unique our situation is - she arranged a date for Tuesday over the phone while I was there and I made a video of it. A guy she's going on a "Mall date" with and with whom she's said is "completely in the friendzone." I have all access to her body and can do whatever I want, as such I plan to **** her eventually and she knows it.

I bolded the weird parts for you

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02-03-2014 , 10:42 AM

#24956

AnonymousTextField

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Maybe I'm getting worse, I dunno. The difference between now and, say 4 to 6 months ago is I don't give a ****. I'm just trying to have a blast in life and dating is one outlet. It ain't about sex, relationship or any of that stuff - I'm in this to have a great time with fun, attractive women. And I'm doing it.

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02-03-2014 , 10:59 AM

#24957

unlucky4me

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So you think pawing at some girl that won't even have sex with you is having the time of your life ?

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02-03-2014 , 11:02 AM

#24958

wutangpoker

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How can ATF be real? But on the other hand, how can he not be real?

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02-03-2014 , 11:12 AM

#24959

LazyTops5

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Originally Posted by AnonymousTextField

Anyway, she hesitantly gives me a beer when I ask for one - she says she's excited to help me with my alcoholism -

Good start

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02-03-2014 , 11:12 AM

#24960

Pay4Myschool

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Originally Posted by unlucky4me

So you think pawing at some girl that won't even have sex with you is having the time of your life ?

Lol....

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02-03-2014 , 11:33 AM

#24961

AKingdom

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ATF I've never heard of or even contemplated eating out a girl on the rag. That's really nasty.

Also, what's up with this girl always being on her period? That's weird too.

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02-03-2014 , 12:03 PM

#24962

bobboufl11

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Originally Posted by Kenny Bania

Well it is Tinder if that changes anything...

Last edited by bobboufl11; 02-03-2014 at 12:11 PM. Reason: guys aren't allowed to put casual sex on OKC, lol

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02-03-2014 , 12:10 PM

#24963

capone0

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Originally Posted by AKingdom

ATF I've never heard of or even contemplated eating out a girl on the rag. That's really nasty.

Also, what's up with this girl always being on her period? That's weird too.

pretty sure it's her standard line that she doesn't want to sleep with the guy. no guy will typically challenge "women" issues.

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02-03-2014 , 12:23 PM

#24964

El Diablo

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Lazer,

"someone needs to get El D in here."

Yawn...

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02-03-2014 , 12:24 PM

#24965

AnonymousTextField

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Originally Posted by unlucky4me

So you think pawing at some girl that won't even have sex with you is having the time of your life ?

Time of my life? No, but she's fun and hot. Besides, I've never really tried to bang her. I've merely made It known that I want to and intend to eventually.

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02-03-2014 , 12:26 PM

#24966

El Diablo

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ATF,

I guess I commend your persistence.

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02-03-2014 , 01:10 PM

#24967

AnonymousTextField

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Dupe

Last edited by AnonymousTextField; 02-03-2014 at 01:22 PM.

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02-03-2014 , 01:27 PM

#24968

citanul

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Originally Posted by AnonymousTextField

The entire time I'm trying to escalate physically by stroking her or grabbing her tits or jamming my hand in between her legs or kissing her. She doesn't stop me but also doesn't really reciprocate.

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I basically have all access to her body and at one point, when I'm rubbing in between her legs, she kinda reaches toward my crotch then pulls away. I grab her hand and pull it toward it but release because I'm not a total creeper.

I literally threw up in my mouth a little bit.

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02-03-2014 , 02:28 PM

#24969

amazinmets73

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Met the vegan girl for lunch. She had just moved to Philly the day before and said she was just looking for friends.

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02-03-2014 , 04:39 PM

#24970

wutangpoker

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Tinder girl wants to grab drinks tonight. I'm not particularly busy, but I normally don't drink on Mondays and I'm also trying to save money and enforce a semi-sober semester. And I'm also feeling kind of insecure today tbh. Woke up with some god damn acne.

Pics of the girl in question so y'all can take that into account:

Spoiler:

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02-03-2014 , 05:00 PM

#24971

LazyTops5

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Year of the tall blonde continued.

Just tell her you're busy and another night this week works better.

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02-03-2014 , 05:11 PM

#24972

slipslope

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Wu I would suggest another activity. Like some crappy coffee house with live music or some art crap.

Atf, Here is what my hairdresser told me "Sometimes you just gotta force it"

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02-03-2014 , 05:12 PM

#24973

wutangpoker

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Originally Posted by slipslope

Wu I would suggest another activity. Like some crappy coffee house with live music or some art crap.

Atf, Here is what my hairdresser told me "Sometimes you just gotta force it"

Was your hairdresser amichelle15?

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02-03-2014 , 05:22 PM

#24974

wateronrock

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Originally Posted by AnonymousTextField

Besides, I've never really tried to bang her.

I'm a big fan ATF, but WTF does this mean?

You're being quite sexually aggressive/persistent with her but things aren't escalating organically. IE Getting mutually hot and heavy. How is this NOT trying to bang her?

Do you wait for her to bend over, and then quickly plunge your cock into her when the time is right?