Tell her you date at a 25yr old level

Hope you had an NBA game on

**** dating, online or regular. Girls are a miserable bunch of ****s.

soz

Nchabazam, weren't you killing it recently?

It can flip on its head before you know what hit you

Exactly, so keep at it until it turns back around again.

I'll ask for advice here, even though it seems relatively useless. I have been out with this girl like 8-9 times. We are supposed to go to Vegas this weekend to see a concert, hang out, and have fun in Vegas. I'm paying for the bellagio on Friday/Saturday. I am going out on Thursday morning myself and staying at the bellagio, going to play some 40/80, 100/200 limit.

Things seemed great, we were both super excited to go. We had plans for brunch. She was out (somewhere) last night, and I wished her a good night. We had plans to go to brunch noonish (yes, on a Monday). I texted her in the AM about brunch, heard nothing. Texted her 12:30 saying "I am getting lunch, hope you got home ok last night..."

2:30 "Just got home from the ER, sorry about brunch"

"Are you ok???"

"Feeling better, bad night, worse morning"

"Let me know if there's anything I can do to help"

Nothing.

That was at 3:30

5:30 I call her leaving a message saying "Hope you're doing ok, sorry about whatever happened, but the bellagio needs to know by ~8 PM tonight whether we are canceling for this weekend (I don't want to go to Vegas for my 30th birthday by myself...). Heard nothing.

I don't care what happened. We've hung out 3.5 weeks, talked every day. Let me know what the **** is up. Am I overreacting?

I can't imagine what happened last night that she's ignoring me and our plans and my ****ing money about this. I'm tempted to pay for a plane ticket of a good buddy to come share my birthday. If you don't want to even respond, I don't really care about you. **** is not cool in my book.

I'm drunk. Am I out of line?

edit: I just ****ing hate people dodging me... be honest, or it's never going to work.

I probably would have called right after the ER text.

Hard to tell now, you don't know what happened yet. Could have been something to her (like stomach pumped idk), could have been that a family member had a heart attack or something and passed this morning, etc.

Hopefully it will shake out. Wouldn't be overly concerned unless I didn't hear from her tomorrow.

Also don't think you're out of line fwiw.

id make plans with your buddies for your 30th and not overreact to her. it's likely something very serious happened to her or a close family member that she doesnt want to talk about, which i dont think is out of line or weird considering youve known her for under a month. it's a sh*tty situation, yeah, but don't let it ruin your 30th birthday.

imagine in her situation, say she suffered some sort of family tragedy, getting a call saying "hope you're ok but i need to know about our weekend plans so i can not lose some money". probably not top of her priority list.

I respect this. $500 is still a fair bit of money (2 nights bellagio super bowl weekend), and seemed worth at least a phone call. Her family lives in Chicago, and we are in Denver. She may have had something happen to her friend, car crash, who knows. The fact that she won't tell me is off putting, but you're right, after 3.5 weeks it's not crazy.

We were in a very good spot before this, and it's legitimately the most excited I've been about a girl in almost a year, 2nd most excited since I was legit single two years ago. Really ****ing brutal if it ends up in some weird car accident or whatever. I'm just stressed, and drinking.

I will wait til ~2 tomorrow, depending on what my buddies say about coming out to ****ing party and forget this bull**** tomorrow.

it's not that she's not telling you, it's that she hasn't told you anything yet. it could be on the lower end of things (a friend had too much too drink and she had to take care of her all night and is just sleeping all day now) too.

keep drinking the stress away, just dont call/txt her now. and i agree with yeota that hopefully you hear something tomorrow, but till then id try to not concern yourself too much

Some OKC hoe called me at 6PM last night. We had a 2 hr convo. I'm excited to meet her cause she looks pretty hot in her pics. The broad I went out with Saturday, while we've shot a few texts back and forth since, seems to have deleted her OKC profile.

Careful bro, you don't want to equate the two.

The broad I was talking with last night said my opener was optimal. So the strategy espoused here of a witty line and a question, with some reference to the profile, is tight.

I did a play on... I forget his handle... Brad Pitt / George Clooney routine:

I had sent her a text "hope you're doing ok..." 10ish

And received "Brutal thx for asking" at like midnight, shortly after I went to bed.

Do I just wait and see if she gets in touch with me? Or is she trying to get me to ask her what happened?

Despite my drunken rant/desire to go to Vegas and party with her, I really like this girl. I'm super annoyed that she's being so vague, but as was pointed out before, we haven't known each other that long. Still, I only have a day or two to fix plans or cancel my Saturday hotel/change flights or something... so I need to know what's up. She seemed to either not get or ignore my phone message.

Gameplan for the day?

Text back "Want me to call you?" and if not I wouldn't initiate again.

imo

I don't know. Going to Vegas with someone you've only known for a few weeks seems like a lot to me. It might, in part, be that she's rethinking the trip. Regardless, I'd text her when you get down to it (re: the trip and scheduling someone else) in enough time to give her 12-24 hours to respond and explain that you know she's got stuff going on and if you want to talk call me, blah, blah, but I do have this trip planned and need to know by X time if you are a go or not. If she doesn't respond by X time, then do your thing.

Also, she might have something very serious going on and just doesn't give a **** about you right now, so don't freak out. When I first started online dating, I was seeing this woman whom I really liked. My dad got sick and I had to go across country every weekend for a few weeks. He died a few weeks later. I wasn't in regular contact with her as I had been. She kind of freaked out on me. She knew I had a family emergency. I liked her but just didn't want to see her again after her series of emails/texts. It wasn't that I didn't like her. I just had other things that made her not even enter my mind anymore for a few weeks. So tread lightly on this, since you really have no idea what's going on.

I She definitely knows you are concerned, unless she is a complete idiot she isn't fishing for you to ask what's wrong. Let her come to you with it on her own time.

I'd say call or text her this evening if you haven't heard. If you don't go with her to Vegas would you still be going with your bros? If not I'd assume Vegas is out and reschedule it.

id do this, and honestly, would just write off the trip with her. just make a new plan for your birthday and not bring it up unless she asks.

I would write off the trip with her. Don't ask "hey I need 24 hours for you to decide". I get where you are coming from, but that's asking too much from her right now.
I would wait 12 or 24 hours, and write something like "I'm really sorry that things aren't going well for you. I'm thinking about you and you know that if you need someone to talk about it with, I'm here." Then let it go. If you don't hear anything a week from now, then maybe send another message, but in the mean time let her deal with it how she wants/needs to deal with it.

Nch, after all of that, you didn't want to call her at any point? Seems like that's the easiest way to get clarification on everything.

The only thing is they already have committed plans. You better make sure she's not going before you make other plans.