It's not typical and women at any age can act like this. She's stressed out about living in a toxic environment and was just venting to you. She probably does it to almost everyone if she's doing it on a date.

I think I had 2 paragraphs on POF.

So many girls on Match have the worst profiles. Like 3 sentences. I guess they figure if they're even moderately cute, they'll get bombarded with emails.

So, my fiancé and I qualified for first round of voting for Plenty of Fish 100k wedding contest. They are basically giving 100k away to a couple that is engaged from meeting on the site. Maybe a longshot but hey we are giving it a shot. In order to vote you had to be a member prior to Dec 20 2012. If you're a member PM me and I can link you to our page in order to vote for us!

Thanks and I appreciate any help we get.

Well, that's good to know. It was driving me batty listening to her blabber on about really stupid bull****. Especially when I have such great convesation topics myself like videogames, sandwiches, baseball, etc.

It makes it hard for me to craft a witty 1st email when all I have to go on is that "I'm fun, outgoing, and looking to meet the right guy!"

It's a little strange to me that you are 28 and haven't dated anyone more than a year apart from you, unless you've just been dating the same girl since college. Honestly, 28/24 doesn't even strike me as a "significant" age difference.

There's a huge range in the maturity levels of early 20's girl. I went out with a 21-yo grad student a few weeks ago...she seemed complete mature, said she only felt comfortable around older guys, and the 12-year age difference between us didn't seem like a factor at all.

I also planned a date with a 22-yo last week. For some reason she wanted to talk to me on the phone beforehand. And on the phone call, it became clear to me that she had the maturity level of a high school student: despite being quite intelligent, she seemed had no self-awareness of how she came across, no idea of how to navigate the adult world, and she lived in the suburbs and didn't even have a driver's license. So I cancelled the date a couple days later.

So I don't think this is the case of an age difference being a problem, but just the girl having the wrong personality for you.

I haven't dated anyone from an online dating site that is further than 1 yr apart from me.

I have been on dates with girls more than one year younger than I am, but I had known them through friends and/or work or something else in real life. They seemed more mature, but I also knew them beforehand, so conversation would just naturally be better I think.

I didn't really think 4 yrs. was a big difference either, but it seemed like it was on this date. More than anything else, I think you're right in that our personalities just didn't really click.

Yeah, the right way to go about messaging a girl is to send one message, if they don't respond, that's that, move on... That's why it's important to send a solid opening message. There's a reason half the girls profile state, "if I don't respond to the first response, I'm not interested. Guys stop sending me multiple messages!"

It's obviously bc it's a huge turnoff

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Turn off that god damn cell phone signature.

I haven't read the entire thread as I'm just seeing it but regarding the last few posts...you definitely want your first message to be the only one; and you have to make it funny/witty/clever and more than likely something related to her profile so that she knows you not only took the time to read her profile but also thought of something to make her laugh.

As i posted above I met my fiance on a dating site and she said she would literally have 100 messages a day from guys. 99% of them just said "hey how's it going?" or "hey i think you're really cute, lets chat!"...so mundane and unoriginal. She said she wouldn't even open the message if it had a title like that.

I'm sure this is the case for most semi attractive to very hot girls on dating sites. Come up with something that will catch her attention. If you don't get a response back just move on.

Aint,

28/24 is a super standard m/f age combo.

I'm going out on a 2nd date with a 22 year old tonight. We didn't meet online, and she is super mature in a lot of ways, but also a 22 year old in others (known her for a few months now). 28/24 is super standard, 22 I'm feeling a little skeevy but not too worried about it if she isn't.

edit: I'm a few weeks from 29

I went on a date with a girl that was pretty smoking hot, and had just joined okcupid (I suggest searching by join date and mailing girls that just joined for better results tbh). She showed me a screen shot she took on her phone where she had 500 messages in the first day she joined.

I probably get like 2.5 okc messages/ratings a day, and probably 6-7 match messages/interests/winks/favorites? I'm not saying I'm hot or anything, just relatively attractive on paper (6'2", fit, blue eyes, **** girls are vain about). I still rarely go out with girls I don't message first. If you aren't relentless on these sites you won't have much luck. If someone doesn't respond, leave it alone and move on.

Well damn... been on okc for 3 weeks and received 1 message, no ratings.

I wouldn't even message a girl that's smoking hot, too much stacked. Gotta compete with 500 messages and far more likely to be a gimmick.

Relentless as in messaging lots of different girls. Don't stalk one though who isn't interested.

Kinda tilting when you message a girl and she insta-signs on/looks at your profile. On one hand, you'd think they'd be kind of desperate, but on the other hand, I feel like my response rate is much lower when that happens as opposed to having a sweat of a day or two.

They prob have an app or something

I mean yeah, I personally try and at least wait a few hours before checking it

I got a message on OKC from someone that google maps tells me is 1 hour 10 minutes away, but knowing those roads it will always take longer than that. So I responded thanks, but that's too far for me. In response, I get:

"I'm closer than u think...I really enjoyed ur profile and I'd really like to get to know u...give it a shot I don't understand this site...everyone thinks u gotta be neighbors it seems...if I wanted to get to know people that close, I wouldn't need the site...ya know? just give me an honest chance that's all I ask... "

I know that I can and will do what I want, but am I being unreasonable here? How far is typically considered too far?

I almost responded back explaining that I really don't feel like putting in the effort for a relationship at this distance, but the ellipses and smilies and 'u' annoyed me enough that I just don't care.

Let it go and move on? Think about the percentages here, a girl doesn't respond...0% chance of a date unless another message. Another message >0% chance of a date... bombarding is stupid, but another follow up a couple weeks later is fine.

My greatest social skills come from being able to respond to something with a witty line, rather than create a conversation on my own so even responding to my own previous message I can come across pretty well. Also, I have been told before while interacting with someone that I got lost in the hoards of other messages and subsequently achieved dates as a result of a followup a couple weeks later.

I once sent a message, got no response, but got added to a favourite list. I responded a few weeks later asking what was up with that and told that she meant to respond, but was busy and subsequently forgot. I was about one message away from setting up a date when I came up with an all time great line after she told me she was originally from Albania "Albania? Like all white with pink eyes?" She didn't respond to that and I just laughed to myself.

Also, from experience I feel as though I make great impressions in person and lack those skills online, so the odd followup after a couple months or so can't be that bad, especially if you make it unique and funny (and the profile stood out to you, because then it probably stood out to a lot of guys).

The guy that I've been seeing lives an hour away. I think it's a good distance for casual dating. I've gotten a lot of messages from guys in the army and marine and they're stationed 90 and 75 minutes away.

I haven't had very much success messaging girls more than once (and rarely do it anyway). I think I've had two girls respond to second messages when I sent them a couple months after the first one, where the second message was much better than the first. But I don't believe I ever went out with either.

I have, however, gone out with women because they sent me a second message. Sometimes, if I am in the middle or organizing dates with several women, I will zone out new incoming messages and never respond to them (I feel strange responding to a message a week or more later). In cases where a girl who is a decent candidate has sent a second message at a time that my schedule is a little more open, I have responded, and usually immediately ask to organize a meet-up.

Can you just ask her to come to your area?

fyp, and every time if there's more than one date?

No, but you can evaluate the attraction the first time and figure out if it's worth it.