I'm not saying this particular woman is one I'd mess with and pretend to give false signals or hope. Conversation went well, I love talking about traveling and exchanging stories because I work for an airline and do a fair amount of traveling myself. She had done a fair amount so that kept me interested. It's just once the night is over and I see how long I've spent on this date, I was like holy ****, 5 hours again? Idk, this is one of the first dates I've had in a long time where I've been meh about it after.

I've only had one date in the past two years where I wanted to end it more quickly and I did. Basically as the waitress came by and asked if I wanted more drinks, I said no, we made some eye contact and she figured out that I was on a date and clearly not enjoying myself so the waitress brought the bill right away. That was it and a woman hadn't abruptly ended any dates with me. (Knock on wood)


5 hours seems like every first date for me lol. Just like you said, it's easy for me to talk and chat my date up since I wouldn't agree to a date unless I thought she were interesting. We'll see how it goes. With tinder, you don't have that knowledge of what a woman is looking for like on pof (casual, wants a relationship, actively seeking, etc) so unsure what her end game is. Maybe just casual dating? Maybe she wants casual sex, idk. No concrete day to go out again but I'd give it another chance. If I do, I'd try to keep it shorter lol

My ideal situation would be having four to five different girls who I see on a regular basis who are willing to do something low key, like a movie and mcdonalds. In a perfect world, they would have no illusion of exclusivity being an option. And then I would go to the bars with my friends and occasionally pick up girls there too. Polyamory all the way for me unless I find a perfect woman. But sex isn't the only, or even most important, objective in dating for me.

This is NOT a troll, I need advice: Posted this in the ask a girl out thread as well

Tommorow is my last day at my corporate job, where I've worked for almost 2 years. I've always noticed a VERY attractive woman in a different department that I've never spoken to before, mainly because our departments are unrelated. She probably has the sexiest walk I've ever seen, and she's seemingly smart/educated, etc. I may have said hello to her every so often when we are passing, but we never formally met.

Over the last week or so, I've had random urges to be bold and just speak to her and ask her out. I'm way younger than her, but I'm an attractive 25 year old guy and she's in her early to mid-40's. What's the best way to approach, or not to at all? I'm in a bold mood here.

This seems like the easiest ask out ever. Just find a way to get her away from others and ask her out for a drink sometime. You won't ever have to see her again if she says no. You don't have to worry about your job. I don't even get what the issue is.

I was thinking something like,

"Hey, today is my last day working here. I've noticed you a bit over the last couple years and..." fill in the blank

Would like to take you out for a drink X date

pretty much what lt5 said...I wouldn't even mention the noticing over the last couple years stuff...could come off as creepy...just be short and to the point

you're gonna stretch yourself really really thin if you try to balance dating 4 girls, financially and emotionally. and if you think you can do all that while also having a heavy social life and picking up girls in bars. unless you know about more hours in the day than i do.

Saying "over the last couple years" will come off creepy, like you've been stalking her for a while before talking to her. "Hey, you're gorgeous (smile). How come I've never noticed you before my last day (sigh)?" would be better IMO

Umm don't say this unless you are planning on getting shot down. Probably one of the worst things you could say. Not only do you manage to come off as a huuuge pussy, but also creepy.

Dating is too strong of a word. I just wanna be able to text any of them at any given point "hey I have X movie, come watch it with me," have someone come over, watch the movie/ cuddle, have sex, then leave. And basically only on weeknights. Weekends are for me!

+1 post results good luck

Why do you want to cuddle a hookup?

god

Yeah what's the point of that /UnoTrap

I thought cuddling was a sign of affection usually reserved for relationships. If you just wanted to grab some grub without any emotional attachment, why on earth would you want to cuddle?

So it was vegan? Sounds great!

lol is this like a common analogy for this thing in Britain these days? grab some grub?

if you achieve this you should probably write a book

People in America say "grab some grub".

Yes. When referring to getting some food.

Was uno the same person who said that he didn't like kissing?

I think the main hiccup you'll run into wutang is that while you can find women that are ok not being in a relationship with you, most will be open to the idea (or actively seeking) a relationship with someone else, and the number that you can call on will slowly dwindle. But I like what you're going for, good luck.

No, I said it's pretty pointless without perks. Given the option of just kissing or playing the xbox I'm choosing the latter 100% of the time. Of course, it's still better to just kiss than to sit there doing nothing. I also enjoy cuddling, but it's weird to do it with hookups. I have to care about the girl.

There is a middle ground between someone you **** with no feelings at all and a girlfriend. I have hookups that I care about but don't want to have a full monogamous relationship with. They are called friends with benefits: key word being friends.

Yeah but he also had his gf start making out with some other dude right in front of him at some party, so you can't really blame him for having issues.