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Originally Posted by El Diablo
Nick,
You really don't know what he means by feeling a connection with a girl right off the bat? You never have just hit it off and that one drink you intended turns into hours long conversation, laughing, etc? I assume you feel like you vibe better with some girls than others after a short time hanging out with them, right?
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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU
connection, attraction, etc. i guess by that i mean did you sense a "click". I know for myself that sometimes it is a lot easier and more natural with people (even on first meeting) than with others. whether that is a mutual phsyical attraction, personalities that mesh well, similar sense of humor, etc.
Well, I can certainly sense that some girls feel more of a connection to
me than others. And I like when this happens! And there are certainly girls I feel more
attraction to than others (but this is mostly physical). But I only ever really build up a
connection to people by being around them for a long time such that they become integrated into my routine.
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how have you been feeling about your dates in general beforehand? do you find yourself generally excited always, or moreso with certain dates, or generally lukewarm to the idea and that it feels almost like a chore?
maybe if you have been trying a lot of dates for awhile you just need a little break. if you are getting burnt out that could come across in your behavior even subconsciously on a date and maybe the girls are picking up on that (maybe a defeatist attitude?).
I am definitely more excited about some dates than others. This is usually a function of (a) how attractive the girl is, and (b) how eager the girl seemed to be to meet with me.
I am probably getting a little burned out. Part of it is that this is basically my only social life here...I moved to this city knowing zero people, and this is not a way to build a social circle. I did take a break from this over the holidays....these were my first dates since before Christmas. But coming back to it is just deja vu.