make the girl hotter too

Girl needs forehead acne removed and boobs enhanced

Stop critiquing the girl now you bastards. She's a good friend of mine it feels icky.

Wow. I don't do this online dating stuff, but do you really think "Oxygen" under 6 things is ever going to be witty or original? Is that a common thing?

Oh I don't know how to set it but here is my profile
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/punchos

I need a better and more 'active' picture but I haven't had the chance to get one yet, I will work on that.

jellyking I believe has an OKC account so you can see it? Felicia does not but I will try to figure out how to set it to public, I hate this tech stuff ugh.

Bless your heart if you get a girl to go out with you because of a Punch Quest reference (addicting game, though)

I actually think your comments have been quite good on all the profiles (except I think most women are going to be much less inclined to view poker favorably than you are, and you might not be attuned to that). Thanks!

But don't you think that an attractive guys with an interesting profile will be more appealing than an attractive guy with a boring profile? And the same for an unattractive guy.

I don't really see how it can benefit an unattractive guy to make his profile less interesting (unless his profile is truly objectively creepy and not just something that highlights niche interests). The niche profile will at least appeal to some minority of women, while the boring profile from an unattractive guy will appeal to no one. If anything, the unattractive guy should "specialize" more than the attractive guy, because the attractive guy can get away with having a boring profile.

Can you add a pic where you have a slightly different facial expression?

Ha...I'm not sure I disagree! Though most people who aren't in academia have feelings that are that strong about academia, so I wonder what her experience was. Hope the date went well otherwise!

Yes, new pictures is my highest priority.

Which is the best site purely for sex?

I'm in Australia if that matters...

I just read your profile for real. I loled at the second sentence. The Ulysses thing is really clever to, but took a long time to get.

I don't have an account
I might be in the minority on this one, but I enjoy interesting dates the most. It doesn't even have to be good interesting, I just like reporting back with a cool story. But maybe that's just me. I'm weird like that.

I think you and I have completely different opinions on what is boring. There are some sections where it's best to just list, so it can be read easily. You can express your personality by the tone of your writing. If you want to show it off, then focus on how you present your information. If you want to date someone exactly like you, then keep what you've been doing, but where's the fun in that?

What I'm most concerned about finding out in a profile are red flags, common interests, and social and intellectual competency. The pic is what draws me in to actually look at a profile. If I'm interested enough I'll learn everything else in conversation and dates. You don't want to elaborate on too much, because it makes your profile harder to get through. And if too much is explained, I won't know what to ask since I've learned it in the profile.

I feel like I haven't fully explained myself but I've been awake for the past 41 hours.

First sentence, change experience to experiencing.

OK GUYS I finally found it!! It is public now!
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/punchos

jelly, could you give some examples of interesting dates you've been on? I've only been using online dating for a little under a week, and I already feel like I'm inviting women to do the same thing over and over.

How does detail in someone's profile make it more difficult to figure out what to ask them? I think this makes it much easier. For instance, maybe they include some obscure reference that you don't understand....you can ask them about this! I get several messages a week from girls asking me about all sorts of details in my profile.

People who are interested in things that I'm not are interesting to me, as long as they are passionate about them and can communicate that passion. I have found that people are overwhelmingly more likely to include not enough detail as opposed to too little.

I believe in my time on OKC, I have encountered exactly one girl's profile that I thought was too long. It's this one, and it is about 6 times longer than mine. And you know what? I still messaged her, as opposed to literally hundreds of girls that I have declined to message because their profiles were too vague.

If I excluded everyone who is more than 25% enemy with me, there'd be barely anyone left. Although, my first online dating date (this Saturday) was with someone who was like 35% enemy, and I did wind up despising her. Like, I actually resented being in her presence.

The other stuff I agree with though.

I don't think you need to get that creative on a first date, and I like to keep it cheap (and potentially quick) as well. It's mainly just about interesting conversation, the less it seems like a job interview, the better.

It also helps if you live in an interesting area. When I was in Wellington, NZ, for all my online dates I'd just meet up at 1 of 3 bars I knew well, then if there was chemistry we'd go for a walk along the waterfront, then maybe back to a dance club or lounge, depending on the mood. I think it's better to know the area and have a gameplan.

Need a picture of you smiling or something

Your 2nd sentence needs a new punchline... Maybe like : ...walks, candlelit blah blah, and being facetious in the 2nd sentence of my online dating profile.

Think that kind of fits in an in your face norm Macdonald style. But at any rate its kinda clunky as a joke as is.


Outside of that I enjoyed your profile.

That's weird that you're getting such high enemy %s. I almost never have an enemy % >10 with a girl who is >75% match.

Maybe you placed a high importance on a couple ?s that you answered controversially?

Back when I lived on the East Coast, it was very difficult for me to find a girl who was greater than 10% enemy. Now that I live in the Midwest, it is just the opposite.

My dating process:

Date 1: Find a nice pub to talk and learn about the person. (I have been on about 30+ 1st dates online, and there have been 2 who showed up exactly on time or slightly before). About 5 were 1 or 2 minutes late and the rest were often 5+ minutes late. Had 1 no show, and about 3 who were ~30 min late. Why are women so unpunctual? Big turnoff
It is really good since I'm able to show off my wit.

Date 2: Activity date, bowling, roller skating, ice skating or the ping pong bar downtown. I have since realized bowling is a terrible date. If she is bad encouraging her is boring and blah, chirping is okay for about 2 or 3 ends, but what do you do after that? You get a bunch of 10 second interactions to say something which gets old after a while and no chance for any lengthy conversations. Rock climbing may not be the best either because of the same reasons. Ping pong is an excellent date if you have a bar that does that.

Date 3: Usually a nice food spot (nothing too nice-too early for that) and maybe a show of some sort afterward. From here on out I wing it.

Maybe this. But I've been messaging almost exclusively IU students, so that should be a pretty liberal sample to draw from. Who knows? Maybe I'm just super unlikable.