That's what I am thinking.

you make some good points, i just wonder if a girl has already agreed to go on a date with you, if she would decline just because she now had to pick a place? im not sure either way.

i do think your way is stronger, and usually what i do irl, not sure if its online makes a difference though. something like "hey would you wanna get a drink on friday at one of your favorite spots?" i feel leaves it open for her to say "anywhere is fine" and youll end up picking anyway.

I agree with derada. Guy should always lead and pick the first date. I don't think it matters so much where it is. It could be somewhere she has hinted at, but you don't leave it open ended and say "hey where do you want to go?"

I don't think you should ever put it on the girl to pick the place. My approach is to suggest a place. Usually something like "Not sure if you had a place in mind, but I was thinking X". 90%+ of the time they agree to go to place X.

i like this approach

The only instances for me where the girl has pretty much picked the location is when she or I calls and it's more of a spur of the moment, I'll be like I'll meet you where you are.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/carmonn?cf=home_orbits

Why

Just got a text from a number I've never seen before saying "who is this?" I saved the number, checked my whatsapp list (genius move when you get a girls number) to see if she had a picture up...she's ****ing gorgeous. I THINK I messaged her on pof a year ago, or more. I don't remember a number exchange ever happening though. I'll update as this goes on.

She says I was saved in her phone under my first initial, which she got right. I wrote back: You probably asked me for my number and never followed up for a date...how rude of you. Girls these days. Let's exchange a picture and see where it goes...it could be a great story


She sent one and hoooooly ****.


And we now have a date for drinks this weekend.

Lol. Must be fake, noone can be that deluded that a straight guy would be interested.

There was a reality show in England called 'There's something about Miriam' where a group of guys competed for the affections of a girl who turned out to be a transexual. This clip just about sums it up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ACJL41x3QE

It absolutely does imo. If you set up the date irl, that means you have already met the chick, whereas online you're both slightly wary that the other is crazy and/or ugly (or doesn't look enough like their pics).

lazer,

Get it!

lazer great story but it looks like the picture isnt working for me

No chance I post a pic until the situation either develops well or blows up in my face.

i've sent a few more messages now with only one response (and even then she stopped responding after a few messages).

should i double check my profile? what kinds of mistakes should I be looking for?

or should i just post the link to my profile here and have you experts take a look?

Yeah, I agree that it's on the guy to propose the place and time. So with Thursday girl I suggested a dive-y bar with an outdoor patio and a pool table, since her profile mentions she like to play, around her hood. She immediately shot back with two other places.

ive been only going after hot chicks but have had a decent success rate. also have a ****-ton of visits. been messaging like 5 girls out of the 12 or so messages I sent out.

biggest sadface was when this mega-elite girl who had this awesome profile liked me in the locals thing so we liked each other. profile made me laugh out loud. sent her what I thought was an A+ message (esp since with the mutual like thing you know she finds you attractive) and no response. beat.

I usually ask the girl what area/time work for her, then pick a place based off of that.

I've talked to probably 10 girls in the couple days I've had it. They all appear to be real, but you're obviously talking to a bot.

I've also just been visiting Boston, so I haven't been trying to follow through on it at all. I've seen a ton of facebook friends/people I know through friends on there... as well as a ton of people I've seen on the dating sites.

I get back to Colorado tonight, plan on giving it a shot out there.

The girl we think just wants a text buddy sent me this during a conversation today:
"And I'm SO looking forward to Sunday sushi you have no idea. This is why we're waiting till Sunday...so we can enjoy dinner. All my other evenings are half evenings this week because of work"

girls gonna girl

lazer,

Get it!

so i agreed to go see the heat with girl + her sister. i get a call from the girl this afternoon (we were supposed to see a 430 showing) and she says she went by the theater to get tickets and they said the AC wasnt working in the theater, and asked if i really wanted to see the movie and should check other theaters. i said, wellllllll i dont care THAT much about seeing the movie, we could still get dinner though. so she said sure, agreed on a place (that i recommended, check).

i go over there expecting dinner with her and her sister, and i get there its just her. so we have a few drinks, sister never shows, i never ask, she never says anything, so A+. "had a great time, lets do this again soon" was how she left it, so feeling pretty good.

Your profile is fine if a little bland. Eat some food and lift weights.