I couldn't get Tinder to work so found TinderProblems on twitter... which isn't what I was looking for but has some pretty funny Tinder pics/stories.

Actually I just checked. It's in the Google store now.

This is great, and good luck obviously...but don't get too comfortable with that too quickly. Everyone here has had a similar situation dissolve quickly for a number of reasons- some our fault, some theirs...but take it slow (even if it's just an internal thought)

I don't see locals anywhere on my OKC. What/where is it?

what sort of EV do we give to people who meet online, date for 2 weeks, and then are already "in a relationship" on facebook in under 2 weeks. Does that ever work out?

For a few months? Sure.

For 5 years? Probably not.

So on tinder, how do I update my pictures? I'm guessing it's crucial that your main photo is your best because most people won't see the secondary photos.

It's only on the mobile app.

Slim chance.

I think you have to put them on FB. You can make it so no one on FB can see them if you want.

My theory about girls is that if they really want to see you, they will find the time no matter how busy they are. Something is up with this chick. I would just come right out and ask her.

P.S. Still think she just wants a text buddy.

A rough draft.

"First, let's get one thing straight off the bat. I am looking for a hookup, not a relationship. Hopefully we are all clear what that means. Protection is a must.

I do NOT like long walks on the beach, coffee and conversation, or love to laugh, or someone I can share my heart with, or mental games. And most of you don't either. I know why you are really here. We all have the same basic instincts. So stop trying to be someone you're not. I know I'm done pretending. I'd rather take a hammer to my face than go on another traditional blind date.

If you want we can meet in a public place and talk for an hour to make sure neither of us are psycho. Then it's off for some no strings attached erotic fun. Maybe I'll call you the next day for a second round, maybe I won't. It all depends.

If you have kids, that's fine. As long as they are out of the room.

If you have a husband or boyfriend, that's not fine. I want to end my dry spell, not any marriages etc. I also don't want to get my face bashed in.

Turned on? I know I am. Give me a call and we'll get started."

I sent a bunch of POF messages back and forth with a girl I have a lot in common with last night. I eventually asked her to get a drink tonight. She apparently had gone to bed but sent me her phone number at 6am this morning. So I need to go out with her tonight because I'm busy the rest of the week and need a date for a concert on Saturday. Is texting her to get drinks tonight (first date) to short notice? If she's busy I'll probably try for Friday and just get a friend/ex for the concert. Also, if things go well should I ask he about the concert tonight? I usually don't make plans while still on a date, is that good/bad?

winner, ladies are gonna love you

I think you need to work on it more. A lot more.

If last night you asked her for drinks tonight and she sent you her # this morning then obviously try to set it up for tonight.

As for the concert thing, I'd wait to see how drinks go before deciding. I would ask her to the concert tomorrow if tonight went well.

+1 to this. Don't bring up a second date while still on the first date.

So this chick had been snap responding my messages, I asked her to get a drink and she went dark. where did i go wrong? (we had mutually liked each other prior to first message)

Me: I was so down with your taste in movies before you dropped that Ben Affleck bomb, thats just unfortunate.

Her: Haha wow, are you really hating on Ben Affleck? That's ridiculoussssssssss!

Me: At least you are balanced out with your Marky Mark love... [bs about movies]. 1/2 isn't bad, I have a high tolerance for ****ty movies anyway. So when you go out on the weekends do you go to DC or Arlington? [Your location] seems a little out of the loop.

Her: Haha yeah [my location] has nothing to do aside from a few hookah bars. So mostly Arlington bars, not a big DC fan.

Me: That's legit, I have been going to Arlington a lot more lately since they have so many rooftop bars. Favorites are [places]. [Bar activity] is my jam.

And my name is [name] btw

Her: Lol yeah I usually go to [place] and [mutual places]. [Mutual place] has been kinda slow lately though, and [other place] is too crowded... I'm [name]"

Me: Damn I haven't been to [place she listed] in forever, last time I went there were like 10 people there, lol.

Anyway you wanna meet up for a drink some time next week? TBH this week is bad for me, I'm gonna be stuck at work Wed/Th/Fri and already have plans with other friends for Saturday.

thinking on last message was, she'll say yeah that sounds like a good idea. I'll say give me your number and we will hash something out.

Ramping my online game back up. Landed 3 numbers yesterday and set up a date with one for Thursday. I don't know if it's the type of women I attract but Thursday girl insisted that I call her, which I did and we chatted for a hour. Convo was okay, she lists herself as thin and her pics indicate it as accurate but she ate a burger while on the phone! Bleech.

Over the course of a week this other chick kinda gave me the third degree through onsite "emails". All this **** about her deal breakers and whatnot. Eventually I became annoyed and got right to the ****ing point...

Seeing Cheerleader on Friday just to see what it's like to be downgraded to activity partner with no sex. She totally played me but I'm a sucker for hot broads.

Thanks. That's my usual strategy. I guess I'll stick with it.




Trying to set stuff up a week in advance has failed for me a couple times. I don't do it anymore. Just keep messaging for a couple days.

yeah prob coulda done that. didnt wanna have too many messages going

You kind of insulted her "usual place" and then asked her out? I don't like tentatively scheduling a date without first having the digits. The last message, assuming this is all "emails," would be better served through text.

Another option is to move the conversation to text asap. My 3rd or 4th message I usually end with something like "Want to grab a drink? If so, send me your # and we can arrange the details".

This way if you're busy you can slowly arrange the details over a few days plus texting is better than the online date messages.

looking back def shoulda asked for digits there. "insulting" her usual place was meh she did it to one of mine so i dont think that offended her.

was thinking i would get a simple response to transition to number but it would have been better to get number and transition to asking out

yep agreed...whether it had been one date or ten. That's why I'm not pursuing her at all. I'll go out sunday, probably, but I'm not super keen