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Originally Posted by chief pot
I met a girl at a friends, she was really aggressive/outgoing asking for my phone number right away. When saying bye she invited me to a get together that weekend and i said i might be going out of town and hit me up any other time. She writes the next day so i take her out that night. We have a few drinks and a decent time. I invite her over and she says yes. Within 15 minutes shes ready to go home. When i drop her off she mentions the get together again and again i say i might be out of town. The next day i say i hi and that a had nice the time, she writes back saying the same. Two days later she asks if im in town I say no and ask her if she wants to hang out again. She doesnt respond. When i get back i message her saying hi whats up. She writes back says hi and asks about my weekend, i asked her out again in the next message and havent heard back its been four days.
Shes on a dating site and it says not looking for a commitment or anything serious. How can she go from being so aggressive and mentioning hanging out again to nothing? Any way to handle this?
This was my former career, so I nerdingly like to look at possibility 1 like this:
You're boy "A" sending "A" messages. You get chucked into your time slice, and she has a finite amount of time slices to give out. But if b or c rocks her world, you're **** out of luck my friend. That's why time is so important in online dating. A day late and a dollar short...
Possibility 2 is she's just the type looking for constant attention, and if a guy seems keen, she bails. Just stop talking to those. Either she'll vanish, or you'll get her drunk one night and hate-**** her. Then never talking to her again is +EV. It's actually not hard to reverse psychology type 2 girls. But it requires a sort of dishonesty and scheming that hasn't really been my thing. It goes against how I like to court a chick.