Cleary, add some humor to the profile. Also, it looks like you're writing it hurriedly, the short-handed, choppy sentences. Either say something like "I'm currently (doing whatever you're doing)" or eliminate the paragraphs and write your activities in one at a time.

Add something light-hearted, funny to the part about stress relief.

get used to

Live chat on POF sucks, live chat on OKC is an almost guaranteed response if you make a decent comment.

One thing that this thread has taught me is that my profile picture really sucks ass and that you are right - problem is that I don't have many pictures of myself because I don't care to be photographed. Need to do something about this though ASAP.

You nuked the funny parts. You needed to nuke the crappy parts.

Get USED to. Not Get use to.

Fun facts about me was not bad.
Has quality taste in pajamas is a decent line.
Be a good little spoon? ugh. No.

Don't say "not a fan of thongs".
Be a bit funnier and more bold. "Thongs are evil. And icky." Or whatever floats your boat there.

Something like that. Instead of going more personal just go more personality and some fun.

Your favorite places line about "memories that will stay with you for rest of your life" sounds like you are writing an essay to get accepted to college or are applying for a job.

The sport stuff sounds too serious I think and is not that attractive. Just makes you sound hyper competitive or something. Just throw it into fun facts about you. "I dabble in rugby. I'm not great. But I don't suck either." Now you come off as mildly athletic. Mission accomplished.

You can even add something even wackier like "if you post in your profile that your ex tried to kill you but he's in prison now then I likely am not interested. Thanks though."

Random humor is good. Explaining every single thing you like to do in your spare time is kinda meh. Get to that later.

Instead of practically saying "here is a list of what I'm looking for in a mate" try to find a way to be funny and show your own personality. This is more my speed and may not really be your personality. And certainly some around here will think it's too weird. But when I switched around my profile to be pretty much like this I started getting all kinds of girls initiating contact with me....including the wifey...

Anyway, just to throw an idea of how to change that up to be more fun and actually bring a potential smile to the girl who is reading it:

"If you travel, laugh, can make me laugh, and have quality taste in pajamas, then we should probably get a drink sometime. I'll even buy pending picture proof of the whole pajama thing. If not, that's cool, we'll go dutch."

Heres what i would change it to, tried to get in everything that would appeal to the opposite sex and remove any of the off-putting stuff.

Just listen to MB.

sharpyetblunt has transformed your profile from very bland to interesting. I would remove some of the exclamation marks, and the '(very easy to do!)' bit, but he did an amazing job.

Does anyone think putting hyperlinks in your profile is creepy? I feel like at worst it's neutral. For example, I put "library card" under my 6 essentials, and if you click it, it leads to



I put a disclaimer at the beginning of my profile about it, again, probably doesn't matter, just pics or gtfo

Cheers guys!

Long time lurker but this thread has motivated me to register.

Do you put your income on your profile? Match has the option of listing it along with height, weight etc.

I'm well paid (like 3 times what someone my age - 29 - would consider a decent salary) so don't know if I should put it. On the one hand I'd think it is good to show that I'm ambitious/successful but on the other I don't want to attract gold diggers.

Best advice itt was to get ripped, post shirtless pics, and write "I just want to **** you"

Glad you brought this up because my friend did touch it up a bit for me.

The trick is to work smarter not harder here. Consensus itt is that I'm obviously good looking and KPowers overrates his looks. I'd wager if he dressed like me and had an enhanced photo while I dressed generically (jeans + t-shirt/polo/button down) and took a crappy shot, then he'd be the good looking one and I'd be whatever.

Yup, pretty much any direct approach within reason works when you're the girl's type.

YES, play to your strengths.

Do you have a friend who is into taking pictures and/or is adept at touching them up?

I earlier suggested professional headshots, don't know how this would work in reality but my pic is just me in front of an all black backdrop (it's clearly not a candid) but girls seem to dig it anyway. Either way between friends and professional options, I imagine you can find somebody to take an awesome picture of you w/o spending all that much money. It'll get you a lot farther than nailing used to vs use to

TheDean1

Grunching here, but has anyone figured out why so many women post self shots from their car?

Are Komodo dragons a good animal to be photographed with?



I'm looking after a friend's corgi at the moment. He's an annoying little **** but he's cute so I'll probably get a photo of him looking adorable.

Pics with pets get pretty much the worst response rate according the OKCupid stats someone linked to, so probably not a good plan

I think there's a pretty clear difference between photographing yourself with kimodo dragons and your pet cat. You can take a pet pic from your mom's basement, being around kimodo dragons conveys some degree of traveling and adventurousness.

Priority for the cover shot is to look good, but I'd 100% include that pic as a secondary shot and be sure to caption it so people don't miss the dragons in the background.

I can photoshop you into an adonis if you'd like.

Black backgrounds for everyone!

oops, i seem to have remembered incorrectly

Yeah, as long as you aren't creepy cat guy then having animal in pic should be falling nicely in line with walking your dog in real life. Makes you seem friendlier, more approachable....plus the adorablility factor And also the not so subtle aspect of being a good future father.

My gut feeling is that sunglasses are a no-no though.