Your profile sounds like the typical profile I see from girls who know they are hot enough that they don't have to try very hard. But maybe this works for very attractive guys as well?

Idk...the example photo they used in the blog post looks pretty creepy to me:


But I'm not going to argue with overwhelming feedback, and I've already taken that second photo down. I think I look similar enough to how I did 2 years ago that the profile pic is still OK.

this thread needs to just be re-titled to "if you have facial hair you should probably shave it"

I never included body shots, but it's probably obvious since my wimpy arms were visible in some pics. I have a special pic that I send to the occasional pervert when they do ask to see my body. (not saying all who ask are perverts.)

I guess you don't realize how much traffic women get on dating sites. I think on my first day I was contacted by at least 20 men. It wasn't necessary for me to enhance my profile. I made it right after a breakup and kept it up for about 2 months. During that period I probably went on dates with 7-10 different men. I rarely put much effort into attracting men.
Turbo has his happy days too

I'm aware of the statistics, nonetheless you appear to settle for a suboptimal strategy because it's doing well enough. The better looking a guy is the pickier he is likely to be. How many guys that you may actually want to meet move on from your profile because you're not marketing yourself effectively? If you're just in it for the attention I suppose that's not relevant.

Definitely agree that the arms are a pretty reliable tell in the absence of a full body pic, although I've known a few skinny-armed women who are total centaurs.

Since your PM box is probably full of requests for this pic by now, you should just post it here and save yourself some time.

Anything genuine. With friends, smiling, in the moment.

This is probably a good place to share with us what your selection process is like. What kindve profiles the guys had and what kindve openings they used, etc.

Seeing as everyone here seems to have a different viewpoints on what works.

There wasn't as much mention of the types of words that were likely to be combined. Cause/effect issues, etc.

It isn't quite as much that "holla" in itself means everything else you messaged automatically becomes worthless...as much as an issue with there being a very large percentage of those who would use that word who also can't make a complete sentence and who would just be all drooly or terribad.

In other words, the type of person more likely to send a close-up pic of his weenie or to say "Yo baby, looks like u gotz some big ol' titties" is also the type who is quite likely to say "Holla!!"

That's where a lot of that in-between stuff comes in. Holla being only slightly negative. It's as much a study of "how bad at ALL of this is the type of person who would use word X" as it is "how is word X received."

Deans pics are okay. In the sense that they're of a guy most girls seem to like. Slender, dark, black hair.

But these Web cam images have to stop. Pictures of you in groups, interacting, smiling. If you're like me and HATE including others in pics that didn't ask to be included, crop it so parts of others bodies are showing.

I feel Dean on generic messages. I do personalized ones and have been flaked on before. But I've done flaking too so I can't hate. But it's just not me to not be creative.

Well played, my road rage-inducing friend.

I think a full-body shot is nearly a requirement for everyone. It's just nice to show your whole uncropped self, somehow proving you are a complete person (even if you are missing body parts). I think it helps to establish some image of you.

cleary - What's with the first pic?

Not totally crazy about your profile but it's not terribad or anything and is probably better than average.

I think his pics are very good....but his profile is terrible. It contains several grammatical errors (which girls always say they hate), and it has the most boring list of supposedly "fun" facts I've ever seen on a guy's profile.

I had a really bad breakup and I was mainly looking for an excuse to get out the house.
It's actually been exactly four months since I received a PM, but sure NSFW
I live in a small town in NC, so being very selective will get you nowhere. I once filtered my results to show college graduates in my area and came up with like 10 results. More than half the guys who messaged me lived at least an hour away. (If you search the females in my area, 90+% are obese/rough looking). I ignored the ogres, the illiterates, the partially filled profiles, and the generic greetings. If you're direct and can put up with my occasional teasing, then you'll probably get a date.

I deleted my profile in August, but I still hang out with two of the guys.

I knew what was coming and I clicked anyway.

Fancy dress party, pretty much have 0 pictures of just myself. So chucked it in there. Got like 30 likes on facebook so thought it would be alright (although most of the comments were about capt stabbin and being a sleaze).

I made that profile after reading the first page at the start of the month. I basically use to just have 3 or 4 lines (moved to london from Australia, primary school teacher, love to travel) but then someone had some big long one they posted so I basically just changed little bits to make it relevant.

You guys suggest changing it? Have found I've been getting more hits since I have changed it though, but guess that only means it was better than what it was before.

Terrible would have to be way worse than that. Girls make grammatical errors as well...and some wouldn't notice.

I think that upping one's game for the profile and proofreading a little and also showing creativity are all warranted. But not doing so isn't completely the worst. Being average it better than average isn't exactly going to win any prizes. It just means that the bottom feeder profiles are REALLY awful.

He makes himself sound fairly easy-going and somewhat funnish at least a little. That is better than a perfect grammar profile about being lonely, really being into video games...like...A LOT....or saying you will be happy to give tips to any girl anywhere on how to improve their fellatio ability.

Cleary, yes. It's better than before. But is definitely not very good and should be improved. Fine tune it to suck less.

Cheers.

Fair enough, it's certainly not terrible by those standards. The Australia stuff seems good. But it was undermined by the fact that the lists are sooo generic. As I mentioned before, he lists the exact same stuff that hot girls list in their boring profiles.

Update... Better or worse? Feel like you guys are going to pick at bits of it (i.e. the netball stuff, but feel that a lot of girls who I've told are interested by it and had some decent conversations based around it). The book stuff might be bad, also the G'Day and the girl liking beer? Thoughts? Feel though its more personal about me and what I'm into. Also, what are your thoughts on adding I'm a primary school teacher at a school for kids with dyslexia? Brownie points or too much?

On another note... Just saw this description on a girls profile

wtf

I'm certainly no authority, but I think that looks much better. I like G'day!

Except:
- (3) on your list sounds a little creepy to me
- I'm pretty sure "get use to" is ungrammatical...but maybe the idiom is just different in Australia

I say get use to a fair bit, but will change. Yeh, will change 3 as well.