Dean-o,

Ok, so kp's pics are "bad", let's see some "good" pics (not asking for you to post your own or anything ldo)

You look taller in the second pic!

I agree, the second pic is def >>>>> the first

Why is bad in quotes?

Not true. I was sending personalized messages for a while and it was a lot of effort to get a few flakes and rare dates.

this is just ridiculous. i've had plenty of "good" girls respond by saying how much they agree with this. funny thing is that after upgrading my pic, even more girls went out their way to note this in their reponse.

bottom line is that the more attractive you are the less creepy any advances will be.

His words, not mine - I think the shirtless car waxing pic could work with a little tweaking

...Such as?

General questions seem to be frowned upon itt. I doubt I have any "good" photos, but this is what I'm using currently... Thoughts?

fredd- in your first pics your eyes look closed and i don't think it's particularly flattering.

second pic- good. shows that you in at least decent shape and care enough about your health to exercise. you don't look facially weird or anything. i think this is fine to use as a body shot.

third pic- meh. doesn't reveal very much other than the fact that you might wear a t-shirt and cargo shorts (i.e. it's hard to assess any of your features here)

get a better face shot as your cover and you should be good.

In the first pic your eyes are closed and your face is really sweaty. Not a huge fan.

I think working out pics aren't great personally and you are wearing a unicorn shirt.

the third pic is pretty good/you should stop shaving your head. It's kinda small and doesn't really show your face though.

k - obviously you are not terrible looking. But I don't think you are an 8. And you certainly chose a couple lousy pics. That woman who recommended you go with the shirtless wax-on pic: do exactly the opposite of everything she ever tells you and you'll probably be fine.

However, the side-starey wife-beater pic is no prize-winner either. Maybe that would somehow work wicked-good in Rhode Island or something...I mean, you know a woman who actually recommended you use the shirtless-car pic so anything is possible.

Both pics seem to convey a general amount of trashiness imo. Maybe that's kind of who you are. But basically you have a shirtless pic (with your car) and a wife-beater t-shirt pic.


dean's pics look decent to me. I'm thinking the clean-shaven look may have been the reason for the better results in the second pic. Slightly different facial expression/look may have been the difference maker too. That denim jacket thing is doing better than the white jacket? I like the wardrobe better in the first pic...but what do I know?


My pic (back when I did that online stuff) I had on my favorite tie (because it rocked) and my smile was pretty good. I have good teeth and a solid smile when I don't goof it up and "cheeeessse" time. Professionally done? Maybe a bit overboard. But try to do better than pointing the camera at yourself in the bathroom mirror...unless you somehow look REALLY good when you do that. And definitely do better than a pic of you shirtless while waxing your car.

Pictures that show you doing something fun is the best way to go. I don't think waxing a car qualifies and staring sideways into a camera at home definitely doesn't. fredd-bird's pic #1 has the right idea but that's just not a good quality picture. If you can look good just standing around like TheDean that's probably fine too, but I'm only like a 5-6 so I wouldn't know. I think even he would benefit from having a second picture showing a fun personality though.

fwiw if you're a 5/6, find (or take) a pic where you look like a 7/8. unless you're really ugly there's no need to be defeatist about your looks, cameras are trickable.

i'm not THAT good looking irl, i'm sure girls are at least mildly disappointed to see me in person as compared to my pic.

fwiw agree re: being fun, but this can also be conveyed via clothing. i think a big diff is that the denim shirt is a lot funner and less business-like than the white jacket. may as well just post my 3rd pic, nothing says fun like mustard pants:

K,

What kind of girls are you interested in? The vast majority of quality (hot/smart/etc) girls I know would insta-nix your profile based on your car pic. Pics like that are basically 100% win if you're a model, total fail otherwise.

As for the second pic, I think that beard thing will scare off a large % of women, but more importantly, get a decent picture of yourself outside in good lighting with a cool background.

Dean,

You're obv a pretty good looking dude and 2 is better than 1, but 3 is maybe the best of the bunch. 3 would be a definite winner if you took another one just like that except sucked in your gut so you looked more in shape. But all of those pics are good enough to get plenty of responses if you're writing like an intelligent human.

*shrug* I have others on my profile and I am a model. FACE MODEL



I'll work on it though, if I'm not a 9 to Microbob then I know my pic game is really slacking.

fredd,

First pic you look like you're kinda wasted maybe? None of yours are terrible, but I bet you'd do way better if you took a couple of daytime pics outside.

Welp, no chance I'm putting my pics to be judged ITT after seeing these. Is it even possible to get a decent, normalish pic or two for a reasonable price from a professional photographer? I feel like a headshot might come off ridiculous for an online dating profile

Burd you get more, better ass than I do and YOU'RE worried about being judged? Lol man up and throw your pics up you goblin.

Wat? I doubt any of the women I've been with this past year would even make it past an OOT 5, probably would be a line of 3s to the people ITT. Pretty sure I mentioned here that I've gotten maybe 2 dates out of the last 120 messages I sent on OKC

Oh, okay. Well then you need help more than anyone. There was a thread called are you good looking and there were some people where the answer was clearly no but nobody said anything. I think posting a picture of SGT RJT is a pretty good deflection.

In either case, man up.

My default pic, year old, don't highlight my hair anymore (yeah yeah, get the laughs out of the way). Most of my female friends (including a few on OKC) said that's my best one.



More recent, from this spring, I'm middle, have dropped 30 lbs since then at least

KPowers, you are overrating your looks and your two photos are awful. A bunch of girls on OKCupid explicitly have something like 'Don't message me if you have a shirtless pic in your profile', and there must be many more who feel the same way but don't explicitly state it. Now, it's clear that you're in decent shape, but to post a topless picture you need to look a little more like this guy



Notice that he's also topless in a natural environment (a beach), so he gets to show off his sick bod without coming across like a bro. Nix that picture immediately.

In your second photo, it looks like you took it yourself? You want women to think you have friends. Friends = they've vetted this guy and want to hang out with him = good thing. I'd aim for a profile picture of you, showing your face, taken by a friend, a photo of you doing some fun, a photo of you with a girl(s), and then another photo (make sure one of them shows your (clothed) body so they don't worry that you are a secret internet fatty). Also, while you're good looking enough to get responses from chicks, you're not good looking enough to get responses from hot chicks solely based on your look.

Dean, I'm really surprised your spam style works. What sort of girls are you getting responses from (education, age etc.).The photos you posted are good. I don't think there is a huge difference in looks between the first two, but you look a lot less terroristy in the second and I bet that's where the massive spike in responses came from.

Dean a lot of girls on their profile say they want something serious and are sick of dating aholes, you think they mean it?

Also

Either bird is lying, or you're wrong.