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Originally Posted by El Diablo
burke: Don't worry about anything like what ATF was saying. Listen to what d10 wrote. Instead of writing the perfect message, when you see a profile you like, read it, then immediately write the first very quick 2-3 line message that pops into your head, just like you're texting back a friend. For someone w/ your profile, anything more than that will prob impact less than 10% of replies (ie: If you send 100 messages doing that, and you get 30 replies, maybe spending minutes tailoring each message would get you 33 replies).
Better yet, convince yourself that a short first message
is the perfect message. I rarely have good results when I try to write more. It's not even a matter of not being worth the time. I'd spend an hour crafting a message if it would increase the odds of starting a conversation that leads to a date with a higher quality woman, but it doesn't work like that.
Consider the fact that if you're asking about something that she's into, she will probably want to spend a few sentences talking about it. Now multiply that by three or four subjects. Now add in her own questions that she wants to ask you. It can get overwhelming quickly. I had a girl message me a few weeks ago and she asked about 4 different questions, all of which would have been great subjects for me to talk about individually. But in order to address all of them I would have spent 30 minutes typing out a response. And I couldn't really ignore any of them or not address them in full because they were all very basic foundational questions relating to all of my hobbies and things I like to spend time on. I felt like if I ignored them it would be awkward to revisit those subjects in the future, and if we never talk about them it's going to be hard to get that initial feel about whether we might get along. I decided I would write back later if I had more time, then never got around to it. If she had just stuck to one question in that initial message it would have been easy to fire back a quick response immediately, then over the next several messages we could have got around to all that other stuff, or better yet saved some of them to discuss on a date. Don't try to fit everything into the first message.