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Originally Posted by BadLieutenant
It may seem good but its not. You don't punish her for flaking so she will do it again.
In girl language: "its ok you flaked on me. I have low self esteem I'll keep on chasing you"
You have some pretty good advice but most of it seems like it's straight from some pick up website and it's just over the top and not necessary especially for guys who are struggling.
Like for instance, on flaking, you guys should realize girls also have lots of anxiety and doubts (especially those on a dating site) and most likely the flaking has nothing to do with you but how she is feeling. Right? Like can you empathize and feel that mindset that she is likely in when she flakes? If so, saying something super smooth and witty isn't going to matter that much because she isn't in a fun mindset and you are not going to change that because you won't have much of an influence on her since she doesn't really know you yet.
So, saying "ok no problem" is completely fine at that moment and shouldn't be something you should focus on or question. If you think she is testing you or she has flaked more than once and is being inconsiderate and you still want to pursue her, I would just not respond and try some other time when she is more receptive. I wouldn't try to "punish" or change someone that I have barely interacted with. It's just a waste of time and counterproductive. Once you meet for the first time, whatever you perceive the power dynamic to be that you had via text, is not really going to matter anyway compared to what you can create face to face.