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Originally Posted by Sly Caveat
Interesting. Was there any discussion of your Gladiator message and what she liked about it?
I had already referred to that message a few times in our text convos so I made a point to avoid beating that dead horse on the date. However she did mention that most of the messages she gets from guys "suck".
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The stroke on the back sounds like it backfired. Did she give you any indication that she was into you before that?
My timing for it couldn't have been more awkward tbh. There was absolutely no physicality up to that point beyond the initial hug, none of the usual brushing up against each other when walking, etc. She def wasn't expecting it and maybe for a brief second thought I may be about to put her into a spot where she'll be forced to make a decision to comply with additional physicality or need to verbally shoot me down.
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I think if a girl you've never met extends her hand to shake yours, you have two proper things you can do. You can shake it or you can take it and pull her towards you and kiss her cheek. Someone once said "Always greet ladies with kisses." I think girls love to be kissed on the cheek, and it shows a confident and gentlemanly side if you pull it off. Hugging is normally standard, but some girls are already apprehensive about e-dating and might want to avoid starting the date with you wrapping your arms around them. These are the types of girls that will preemptively extend their hand. Sounds like she might have started to build a wall and her tensing up at your physical escalation was evidence of that. Dunno though.
At the first bar, in the course of normal convo I asked her whether she would have let me pick her up prior to the date had I offered. I forget her response but to that I mentioned I like to offer because I'm a gentleman. She responded, with a smile, by saying something like "Well that's not good. I work in small office with all guys so..." Implying she can handle a certain level of ungentlemanly behavior I suppose. She did say on two occasions I can ask her anything, emphasizing that anything meant anything. I had to bite my tongue because the first question that came to my mind was "OK, what do I have to do to get you into bed?".
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Given the first two quotes, the answer to this should be "who cares". I would never contact that girl again.
True, but I'd like to bone her. She was pretty fun / interesting and I think I was building some attraction at the second bar but simply could not sustain it very long on account of being very tired and stuffy headed to the point that my mind was running blank. Feeling more myself I likely would have suggested that we continue the evening by picking up a bottle of wine and drink it at her new apartment or whatever... if only to gauge her reaction in an effort to see where I'm at with her.
At the second bar, in response to something I cannot recall atm, in a non-insulting I said "You scare the **** out of me". She seemed intrigued by that and pressed me to explain why. I think I might text her sometime today saying "Although you scare me, I had a fun and definitely would like to see you again. blah blah". I may propose something for this weekend because 1) why not 2) just to see how she responds and if she responds.