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Maybe they're not special, but I think the graduation, face close-up, and golf pics are good in that they actually display his physical appearance. I could see using the tv one as well as it's sorta cool.

I think the TV one seems cool to guys and meaningless to most girls.

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05-14-2013 , 11:09 PM

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A couple of these might be a little too jokey, but I think you have the right idea overall.

Eh, I think I agree with ATF on this:

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Too interrogative imo.

Looking back at all the messages I sent first, I typically commented on some common ground or something interesting, and there was about 1 question in there. Seemed overall successful. And felt natural, which is really what matters.

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05-14-2013 , 11:10 PM

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Thanks for feedback guys, I'll make necessary changes.. Ya I think I'm cutting out golf photos, they don't do much for me

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05-14-2013 , 11:15 PM

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After reading your actual profile it seems kinda boring and borderline condescending. Almost as if you are attempting to give off the vibe that you are above online dating but decided to just make a profile to see whats up.

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05-14-2013 , 11:15 PM

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Dale,

Root.

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05-14-2013 , 11:17 PM

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I think the TV one seems cool to guys and meaningless to most girls.

Hmmm, seems totally believable. Don't remember if I mentioned this before, but it's so much easier to go after gay guys since they're still guys, so they like what you like.

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Thanks for feedback guys, I'll make necessary changes.. Ya I think I'm cutting out golf photos, they don't do much for me

Well you don't have to get rid of both. Isn't that the only full body shot you have? It's nice to have that.

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05-14-2013 , 11:21 PM

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I agree, I just took out some of the "qualifications" that give off the condescending vibe

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05-14-2013 , 11:26 PM

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nice tips guys, re-reading some of my messages you're right.

might as well just post my profile here in case anyone wants to give it a glance - http://www.okcupid.com/profile/asherbk86

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05-14-2013 , 11:30 PM

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I lolled...

Can't guarantee I'll remember and am too lazy w text, but I'll try

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lol? you dont have to delete if every time. just go into settings and turn it off.

Bump.

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05-14-2013 , 11:42 PM

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If you pay for it. Otherwise, it just tells you about some of those that rated you highly if they are a very good match to you. The rest remain a mystery.

This, they also show up in your "quick match" on occasion and while I don't know for sure, depending on the type of people who rate you highly, that "demographic" will begin seeing you more often in their searches. For example, my profile has been getting hit predominantly by women in their 40s over the last few days. The last two "rated you highly" emails I've received were women in their 40s as well.

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05-14-2013 , 11:54 PM

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Second try at it, flame away on my profile.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BillupsHill0133

I just deleted one of the golf pics, added a new pic from LV, updated a couple sections including the music and "you should message me" part so it doesn't seem as bitter.
Thanks guys

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05-14-2013 , 11:59 PM

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OKC didn't seem that liberal to me. I guess region plays a large part in that though.

I'm still about 600 posts away from being caught up, but I definitely think OKC skews left. It's also considered kink-friendly by people interested in fetishes and alternative lifestyles.

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05-15-2013 , 12:06 AM

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WTF. "what up doe" sent a text to confirm our date and asked how my day was. I responded with some bull**** and asked how her day was and whether she had recovered from her drive from Detroit. Her response was like "Work was fine! Yeah 12 hr shifts are pretty nice." Template response or mis-text?

ATF, what's the problem here?You asked her a question replying to her text CONFIRMING your date. She briefly answered your question. Nothing more to talk about, just go meet her.

Musicman, I'm with the other poster not a fan of the "howdy"

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05-15-2013 , 12:21 AM

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Musicman, I'm with the other poster not a fan of the "howdy"

I seem to remember an old OKCupid blog article where they tested about 10 different greetings, and howdy showed up as one of the best.

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05-15-2013 , 12:25 AM

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I seem to remember an old OKCupid blog article where they tested about 10 different greetings, and howdy showed up as one of the best.

I had a friend before and every time I would say yo or what's up etc he would always respond with "howdy"

Guess it used to just tilt me a little.

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05-15-2013 , 01:05 AM

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ATF, what's the problem here?You asked her a question replying to her text CONFIRMING your date. She briefly answered your question. Nothing more to talk about, just go meet her.

No problem really, it was just an oddly vague response to a pretty pointed question.

"Hey UM how's the online dating thread going?"

"Yeah, OOT is full of weirdos like ATF!"

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05-15-2013 , 01:39 AM

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ATF,

Please post the verbatim back-and-forth, thx.

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05-15-2013 , 01:46 AM

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Maybe it wasn't as off-target as originally thought, however she completely left my question unaddressed.

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Sounds good then. So Thursday at 8ish unless your work calls you in?

Yup! How was your day?

Nice! My day was fine. Work and actually made it to the grocery store for once. I could get used to this weather too! How about you, recovered from the 4hr drive yet?

Work was fine. I wish I could have enjoyed the warm weather though

Hopefully it will be nice out on my day off! It's nice that I only work three 12 hr shifts!

ETA: I don't really care though. Thanks to you El D and the others, I'm beginning to tone down the ALL WITTY COMMENTS ALL THE TIME and it seems to be working quite well. Spent the last hour chatting with some other POF broad and if she sends me a picture of herself (she only has one profile pic) we're set to meet at the casino this weekend.

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05-15-2013 , 01:55 AM

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ATF,

She confirmed your date, then after you talk about your day and the weather, she talks about her day and the weather. OMFG she didn't address one of the things you happened to write in your text, let's make a federal case out of this!

It's bizarre that your reaction to that totally standard text back and forth was "Template response or mis-text?"

Out of curiosity, what do you do for a living?

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05-15-2013 , 01:57 AM

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No problem really, it was just an oddly vague response to a pretty pointed question.

"Hey UM how's the online dating thread going?"

"Yeah, OOT is full of weirdos like ATF!"

"Recovered from the 4hr drive yet?" sounds like insipid small talk to me and not a "pretty pointed question". There is nothing out of the ordinary about what she wrote, and this seems like a common theme in what you are posting.

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05-15-2013 , 01:58 AM

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When I see text followed by a question mark, call me a weirdo but I usually go ahead and make a concerted effort to reply to that portion of the statement. I'm a programmer / web developer.

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05-15-2013 , 02:09 AM

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This is going to be my "hail mary" to the 42 yo PhD / history professor if she doesn't get back to me:

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Hold on, there was one additional requirement which unfortunately seems to have been omitted from my profile (the dog probably ate it!). When I send you a hurried, half-witted response to a sincere proposal to meet up you'll agree to ignore it for my second, more thoughtful message.

It would be my pleasure to meet you for a drink. That you meet my "requirements" only makes it all the better. My schedule is unusually full this week however if you're available Sunday evening or any evening next week, let's make it happen. Oh and I know it's well-coded, so I should mention that my name is ____.

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05-15-2013 , 02:09 AM

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ATF,

OK, programmer makes sense, thx.

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ATF,

That actually seems pretty solid! I'd prob go w/ something a little more casual than "It would be my pleasure" which sounds overly formal to me, maybe something like "It would be great to meet for a drink" or whatever. But that's nitpicking and prob doesn't matter at all.

Oh, I'd also drop "unusually" and just say that your schedule is really crazy/busy this week.

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