Only if she's a classy lady.

You mean generally or in dating? They are definitely a thing in the UK, although no one really talks openly about them.

I’ve never heard them mentioned once. I also lived in the UK for 28 years and never heard them mentioned.

I mean, of course the concept of someone being judged better or worse to lend money to by institutions is/was always a thing but I’ve never once heard an individual mention their own score or even the concept of one

There are agencies in the UK that offer credit records and also "scores" (though they differ by provider), but lenders will generally apply their own proprietary algorithms to decide if they want to lend to you or not.

lead with this

the most appropriate quote is surely to describe myself as 'the Iron Chief of Pounding Vag'

Iron Chef.


The quote is Iron Chef.

Then how do they judge people when deciding to lend? By the the person's gate?

Gf and I broke up yesterday. It was mutual - we realized we didn't have long-term compatibility. I learned a lot during this time tho, even in a short 5 month time frame. Going to do more work on myself physically, get in better shape and lose some weight before I re-enter the dating scene.

Luckily cold weather is approaching and I'll be content at home on my own. Hoping to meet someone to spend time with once it gets warmer again next year, however.

that's no good buddy. getting in shape/dropping some lbs is always a good goal - so good for the mental health and self esteem as well as the physical appearance and the way you feel.

I don’t know, it’s cuffing season. Might be good to get out there.

what the above user said, theres always like 10-20% more activity on apps in the winter months

but if yore not mentally ready the thats more than ok

don't let the last part stop you.

younger women(early 20s) love older men (40+) , a lot out in the open and a lot more wish it secretly.

Plus now if you have a local team you can take a date to an entertaining NBA game!

Honestly, I used to fear being alone. It made me rush into relationships and settle for less than I deserved at times. It sucks that it took so long to understand that there are worse things in life than ending up alone. Don't get me wrong, I still believe life is better with a partner, someone to share the good and bad times with - but I am no longer scared that I'll never find the right person.

So I'll get myself into better shape, and take my time getting back out there. When I do, I'll make sure the person I end up with is a good partner and hits my preferences. Not going to settle for someone who isn't right again.

I get it, but I don't want to rush into something and don't mind taking time to get myself in better shape. That is something I have needed to focus on for awhile. Better late than never I suppose.

I still have time to meet someone. I'm mid 40s, so plenty of life left (I hope).

No local team for me. I'm 2 hours from the closest team, and they aren't a team I'd root for anyhow.

There is an NHL team here tho, which is a fun date night.

If it's not too personal what was the compatibility issue? On the plus side, you dodged Christmas. That saves you some $$$. GL with future relationships!

She's never been married, and wants marriage. That isn't a deal breaker itself, but she doesn't want to live with someone before marriage. I'm definitely not getting married again without living with someone first.

Also, my cat is an ******* and hates other cats for whatever reason. He was originally raised with other cats with no issues, but since I got divorced and he's been an only cat, he has been very aggressive when being introduced to other cats. She has 2 cats, so that would be a problem.

She lives an hour and 40 minutes away, and the distance isn't easy. We saw each other most weekends (she had to miss a few due to financial issues when she was supposed to come see me) but I want to find someone closer and easier to spend time with.

She had a difficult past and struggled with finances (she is doing better now but has some loans that are weighing her down until they're paid off). I paid for 90% of our dates and didn't want to continue that.

cb it sounds nuts to me that she would flat out refuse to live together prior to marriage - feels like a major red flag there



as i'm sure you know and agree, you learn so much more from living with someone than even if you were already staying in the same place most nights anyway

it's that transition from guest/host to roommate which is the big change maker

it's these little efforts you'd make as a host or guest that cease - until you're both ok with taking a loud dump in the adjacent room you're not a true couple imo

take it further IMO. Insist on Blumkins every day for a week

I don't think it's a red flag, exactly. More a lack of life experience. She's never been married before, and does have a religious background, so I'm guessing that ties into it as well. I know people who have never been married before that have the same feeling - no living together until marriage. I just don't think they understand how important it is but I'm not going to argue it with them, either.

I knew it! A Guardian article from last Spring.

More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expert