Sometimes I actually go on a good date or two, which I wrote about here

new weird stuff to report

in wichita, match with a girl and it seems to go well - i'm very clear that i'm passing through town and that doesn't appear to be a problem and she's eager to meet

we matched on friday but she says she has to get up early on saturday to do some stuff and suggests we meet saturday instead, i tell her i was planning on leaving saturday and she asks me to spend another night because she really wants to meet but saturday is only day she can do it - i agree, she asks for my instagram to chat there to finalize details and adds me

i follow back and suggest a time and an upscale place (midwest upscale, nicety and prices are typical east coast - but because it's in wichita, it still probably serves tater tots) and leave it up to her as the local to choose a time and place of her own

she doesn't respond but it's sorta late and figuring she's either playing it cool or already asleep

today comes around and she full on ghosts me and doesn't respond to my follow up texts

she has not unmatched on bumble nor insta so it's a bit weird - judging that her insta is private, she's only moderately attractive, and has only 5 photos i'm thinking that this is just what she does where she likes to collect followers as she has like 4.5k of them and they are all dudes

i would have stayed here an extra night anyway just to be in a quiet and comfortable spot with wifi for my two busiest days of the week so it's not a real inconvenience

but it definitely feels like this woman is a sociopath and dating apps are her medium where she literally convinced me to spend another night with no intention of actually seeing me

Or just found someone she wanted to **** more?

I’ve mentioned this before but I find these types of profiles remarkable. Fwiw, this woman is probably a 3.5 anyway so I wasn’t thinking about it but even if she was a 9.5 I’m just never swiping right on someone who writes a list of characteristics she doesn’t want as the only thing she wants to say about herself

Although I concur with her dislike of bad spelling and punctuation

i'm infinitely f*ckable

Same here, except life is the only one that chooses to **** me

The Dark Side of Tinder: The Dark Triad of Personality as Correlates of Tinder Use

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It wouldn't surprise me if social media fostered the dark triad

I would assume that most people who go into online dating with a youthful exuberance and a fresh mind experience some sort of getting ****ed over. Either by getting played, getting ghosted, getting no matches, or whatever. The mass majority of the content out there is about manipulating the algo and manipulating your image to get the best results.

And sure, many are trying to convey a message of "you need to actually improve yourself in these ways" but many people just do the surface level bullshit to get the most bang for their buck.

Tough times in the online dating pool for most people

Once I reached the sticks of Kansas I found very few women at all on bumble, definitely reinforcing my belief that bumble attracts a higher social class of women

There was also a very nice blackjack dealer yesterday

She spent a lot of time asking me personal questions etc and was very friendly, joking with me etc, ie despite knowing I wanted it face up on doubles she’d sometimes take a look and then if it was bad keep it face down, and then later troll me by pretending a face card was a bad one and keeping it face down so I’d be surprised when it won despite her having 20. Long story short, lots of conversation, she knew a lot about me etc by the end of the night, that I was passing through and going to spend one more night etc

Anyway, after last call I approached her at the last chance available when only one other coworker was there and handed her a gambling addiction card (inside joke because she’d been handing them out to players all night) with my name and number on it

I simply said “you’re fun to talk to and eating alone sucks so if you’d like to join me for lunch tomorrow shoot me a text

She had a look of absolute horror and didn’t respond but took the card. I thought about clarifying that it wasn’t a date (she was very overweight and without curves so this genuinely was not a date attempt) but figured best to just ignore the look (which could have been for her coworkers benefit) and walked away

Getting vibes that I’m now officially an old man. Kind of like when Christian found himself too old to pickup women at bars anymore in niptuck

wonder how much different it was in 2014 compared to now in 2024

I remmber from someone that used tinder backin teh first 2 years it went full live he said if you were in the even top half of looks it was still rather easy to meet up he said he is ugly and back then it was like shoting fish in a barrell for him compared to other people he sees strugling nowadays


I still thikn if you are in the top 5% of looks you are fine but im sure its way harder now than it was the first 2-3 years

today i met the perfect woman at the tables, naturally beautiful, fun to talk to, got along with her really well, she even went to my rival college

but alas she's married

I have an 807 credit score.

Should I lead with that on an online dating profile?

Every profile I've seen leading with that has been quite obnoxious overall (making that and home ownership their entire personality)

you are not saying that there are real people with their credit score on their dating app? please tell me no?

lol I was making a joke, most women would think I was lying anyway.

Only 807?

What are you, a farmer?

McLovin confuses his area code and credit score all the time.

Wholesome Mod AND an 807 credit score? It's almost not fair. How about saving some women for the rest of us.

good first date with a v good looking woman last night. approx 2.5 hours and very good connection, although nothing other than a kiss on the lips after. we both agreed it went well and she said we should meet again.

unknown territory for me because so far, they have either made it super super obvious they are into me and there has been sexy time or it's clear they are very keen, or I'm not at all interested/there's no chemistry so it was easy.

So....how long should I wait to text her? stopped myself doing it when I got home and haven't done it this morning....feels like this afternoon/evening is right?

Don't wait too long or she'll think you aren't interested. I always text when I get home to reinforce my interest and ensure that her interest wasn't just her being nice at the end of the date. Lock up a 2nd date and go from there.

Definitely within 24 hours. You can't keep hem dangling in online dating as if she's as good looking as you say, she'll already have had dozens of messages since your date.

I sent something this pm and got a nice one back so we are all g.

I’m an upfront person and tbh, if I tell them Im keen to meet again after we’ve met and they’re not interested, then that’s fine - I don’t want to be with something who didn’t feel a connection anyway. But I also have always been a believer in keeping them guessing a little bit and not being over the top about liking someone

Idk - it’s all new to me. Not only because am recently separated after 23 years but because asking strangers or people you knew a little onto dates wasn’t a thing where I grew up. Just never happened.

If you have an 800+ credit score, I'd lead with that info on date #2.

Credit scores aren’t a thing in Australia. (Tbh I haven’t heard any non American talk about them), but maybe I should talk to her entirely in Superbad quotes?